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The problem seems to be that you want a perfect relationship, and this one just isn't that for you anymore. It may be the relationship you will regret not holding on to when you're 50 or 60. Right now, though, it seems to be slipping away.
I agree, I think the silence at these remarks is probably the heart of the issue. OP considered her silence as not giving rude comments any thought or attention, effectively dismissing them, but her daughter saw it as “someone just said I can't possibly be my mom's daughter because she's so beautiful and I look nothing like her… And she didn't tell them off or defend me at all.”
In most cases where an adult child wants nothing to do with a parent, it is usually because the parent is a shitty person, and they do leave out the real reasons and try to paint themselves as nicely as possible. But in this case, I'm not so sure. I'm seeing enough comments corroborate the whole “growing up in the shadow of a beautiful mother” thing, and OP seems sincere (at least to me).
I never had the issue of feeling like I wasn't beautiful enough for my mom, but I do know what it's like to see people say shitty things about me with my mom present and she just… Doesn't step in, doesn't respond, doesn't defend. It feels like being abandoned right there in front of everyone. For your daughter, if it started at a young age and has continued all her life, then it's no wonder she has such serious self esteem issues and why she resents you.
OP you thought you were handling those instances well, especially by following up with those people later, privately, but your daughter never saw you defend her. She saw you silently agree with them, probably too ashamed of her to defend her. That's probably why she has these intense feelings towards you.
Oh this is a complicated situation. Since you are FWB he’s looking at the situation differently than you are. You even write it in your post that you’re just really still kind of in a relationship or behave that way. But you’re not. You have some decisions to make about what you do with him. Unless you guys had some big conversation then I didn’t see you in there about where your relationship is going, he is friends with benefits.
Not many 18 year olds are emotionally mature adults. He may have matured over the last few years and that coupled with the guilt may have prompted the message explaining the situation
Wait. So your friends gave you 100, so you could hold onto it, to give to the other friends if they’re going to get married. Including yourself. Are you high right now? My god
Not only did she say she does not like them, but decided to not even take them home. Also said I am expected to come up with “proper” flowers by tomorrow.
Don't get her more flowers. Trashy behavior does not deserve to be rewarded.
If there’s any solace here, it’s the fact that he told you when he logically could have said nothing. He clearly sees this as a non-issue.
Now, that doesn’t mean it’s a non-issue. They clearly have a close relationship, and maybe it legitimately is completely platonic and this was just whatever.
As for your question? To be fair to you, I think it’s just entirely subjective. If you think they are, then they are. I think there are absolutely specific types of massages where there’s no doubt in that regard, but I’m here assuming he rubbed her shoulders for a minute. You’ll have to let us know.
Having said that, whether we define it as “intimate” or not, I do absolutely think it’s inappropriate. They’re coworkers. Was this at work?
Ask her if she has other lies and secrets to come clear before your relationship goes anywhere.
She can be honestly panicked that you did not hook up if she warned about her having child. Or she can need a father figure more than a bf. Or you can be her future bank account. Or she may really love you and have a bad experience of abandonment.
Sit her and have a serious discussion. No blaming. Tell her that discovering her son so late is disturbing. Tell her it is not about her son but about trust, yours and hers. Let her explain her situation and her feelings.
If you want to leave, you can do any time. But having the answers is worth waiting quietly.
The thing I find most bizarre about this story is that you speak of wanting to settle down and raise a family but then casually mention in passing that you're also going to move to Ukraine (a literal warzone!) for work.
If you are serious about having kids then you should become a healthier weight for both the sake of your health and for lowering your risks during pregnancy. You should also have a realistic think about work and where you are going to on-line because most rational parents (or parents-to-be) are doing their best to flee Ukraine rn.
IMHO, it kind of sounds like you're already moving on with your life. You can't force your BF to marry you just to tie in with your biological clock and expectations of family life, you need to work though everything first and develop a happy relationship actually worthy of marriage. You seem to be viewing everything from the angle of “I'm cured of depression now so marry me because I want babies now!” rather than thinking about your BF's wishes for marital life and what he wants (where does the home he bought for you both also factor in when you're going off to Ukraine for work??).
Have you considered freezing your eggs? Because it sounds like that would take the pressure off the biological clock for a while (which pretty much seems to be your main and only incentive for pursuing marriage).
How important are things like your sex life and sexual attraction in the relationship to you? Because it sounds like your BF isn't attracted to your current weight and doesn't want to sign a life contract with someone who he might already be suffering from flagging physical attraction to. When you marry someone you are very much making a statement of fully accepting that person as they are (right there and then) for life and it sounds like your BF is very conscious of this fact. Are you two really on the same wavelength at all?
This is why people should never sacrifice their career for anyone. If you do something for someone, treat it like “a gift” and don't expect anything. You moved just for him and now you want him to do the same for you, but unfortunately it doesn't work like this. He has better career and established life, so I understand why he can't just move. As a nurse you can work everywhere, so I don't think it's a solid argument. If you are unhappy, the only solution that I can see is to get divorced and come back to your home town.
so you want the internet to comment on a relationship, as told from a friends angle, and decide if he cares or not based on one line ” I don't have time for this, I have more important things to stress about right now”..did you know when people use absolutes like “ever time” or something similar, they are generally exaggerating. Now you using it from a second had perspective (as in what was being told to you by someone else), really makes it a bit much…anyhow with all the info contained, I will flip a coin and tell you the results. Yup came up heads, he cares.
If you have this much apprehension then don't do it.
Going into something like this should be something both parties want. Otherwise I promise it'll create trouble.
Also, I haven't known any couples who did this and had a successful relationship. Even long term “swingers” have had issues. I don't think I could ever do it in a serious relationship.
You’ll see him having sex with the other girl and enjoying it in a way he doesn’t with you. He may make her orgasm and it will make you feel disgusting and not good enough. I can pretty much guarantee you that your relationship is already over, you just don’t realize it yet. He’s bored and wants to try something else. You’re sheepishly going along with it to appease him.
The problem seems to be that you want a perfect relationship, and this one just isn't that for you anymore. It may be the relationship you will regret not holding on to when you're 50 or 60. Right now, though, it seems to be slipping away.
I personally think that’s justified. If he didn’t want to date you when your (fat) just kilos can’t be that nude right?
She seemed to be straight forward with you and even accepted getting rid of them since it made you uncomfortable. I would drop it at just that
I had that body count at that age ?♀️
Do you intend to stand up for your husband at any point here?
If you're not ready to choose your husband first, over your father who is trying to destroy your relationship, you're not mature enough to be married.
This relationship is such a trainwreck
That's not an explanation of why he said that it's “good that you're so young”.
What? Take it out of the toilet and leave it somewhere?
I agree, I think the silence at these remarks is probably the heart of the issue. OP considered her silence as not giving rude comments any thought or attention, effectively dismissing them, but her daughter saw it as “someone just said I can't possibly be my mom's daughter because she's so beautiful and I look nothing like her… And she didn't tell them off or defend me at all.”
In most cases where an adult child wants nothing to do with a parent, it is usually because the parent is a shitty person, and they do leave out the real reasons and try to paint themselves as nicely as possible. But in this case, I'm not so sure. I'm seeing enough comments corroborate the whole “growing up in the shadow of a beautiful mother” thing, and OP seems sincere (at least to me).
I never had the issue of feeling like I wasn't beautiful enough for my mom, but I do know what it's like to see people say shitty things about me with my mom present and she just… Doesn't step in, doesn't respond, doesn't defend. It feels like being abandoned right there in front of everyone. For your daughter, if it started at a young age and has continued all her life, then it's no wonder she has such serious self esteem issues and why she resents you.
OP you thought you were handling those instances well, especially by following up with those people later, privately, but your daughter never saw you defend her. She saw you silently agree with them, probably too ashamed of her to defend her. That's probably why she has these intense feelings towards you.
Oh this is a complicated situation. Since you are FWB he’s looking at the situation differently than you are. You even write it in your post that you’re just really still kind of in a relationship or behave that way. But you’re not. You have some decisions to make about what you do with him. Unless you guys had some big conversation then I didn’t see you in there about where your relationship is going, he is friends with benefits.
Not many 18 year olds are emotionally mature adults. He may have matured over the last few years and that coupled with the guilt may have prompted the message explaining the situation
At the end of all of it you either trust him or you don't. Perhaps let him know it would ease your anxiety if he checked in through out the night.
this has to be fake….why would someone ask this here….
Wait. So your friends gave you 100, so you could hold onto it, to give to the other friends if they’re going to get married. Including yourself. Are you high right now? My god
I have been staying away and put major boundaries up. Now I want to make sure I am not being naive by getting more relaxed and being “good friends”
Snoop though phone time maybe
I thought I needed to apologize to my best friend. I’m not sure what I mentioned was offensive or not
Not only did she say she does not like them, but decided to not even take them home. Also said I am expected to come up with “proper” flowers by tomorrow.
Don't get her more flowers. Trashy behavior does not deserve to be rewarded.
Hang up.
If there’s any solace here, it’s the fact that he told you when he logically could have said nothing. He clearly sees this as a non-issue.
Now, that doesn’t mean it’s a non-issue. They clearly have a close relationship, and maybe it legitimately is completely platonic and this was just whatever.
As for your question? To be fair to you, I think it’s just entirely subjective. If you think they are, then they are. I think there are absolutely specific types of massages where there’s no doubt in that regard, but I’m here assuming he rubbed her shoulders for a minute. You’ll have to let us know.
Having said that, whether we define it as “intimate” or not, I do absolutely think it’s inappropriate. They’re coworkers. Was this at work?
Ask her if she has other lies and secrets to come clear before your relationship goes anywhere.
She can be honestly panicked that you did not hook up if she warned about her having child. Or she can need a father figure more than a bf. Or you can be her future bank account. Or she may really love you and have a bad experience of abandonment.
Sit her and have a serious discussion. No blaming. Tell her that discovering her son so late is disturbing. Tell her it is not about her son but about trust, yours and hers. Let her explain her situation and her feelings.
If you want to leave, you can do any time. But having the answers is worth waiting quietly.
Well you're not in her position. If your feelings and intentions are about her then the past does not matter.
The thing I find most bizarre about this story is that you speak of wanting to settle down and raise a family but then casually mention in passing that you're also going to move to Ukraine (a literal warzone!) for work.
If you are serious about having kids then you should become a healthier weight for both the sake of your health and for lowering your risks during pregnancy. You should also have a realistic think about work and where you are going to on-line because most rational parents (or parents-to-be) are doing their best to flee Ukraine rn.
IMHO, it kind of sounds like you're already moving on with your life. You can't force your BF to marry you just to tie in with your biological clock and expectations of family life, you need to work though everything first and develop a happy relationship actually worthy of marriage. You seem to be viewing everything from the angle of “I'm cured of depression now so marry me because I want babies now!” rather than thinking about your BF's wishes for marital life and what he wants (where does the home he bought for you both also factor in when you're going off to Ukraine for work??).
Have you considered freezing your eggs? Because it sounds like that would take the pressure off the biological clock for a while (which pretty much seems to be your main and only incentive for pursuing marriage).
How important are things like your sex life and sexual attraction in the relationship to you? Because it sounds like your BF isn't attracted to your current weight and doesn't want to sign a life contract with someone who he might already be suffering from flagging physical attraction to. When you marry someone you are very much making a statement of fully accepting that person as they are (right there and then) for life and it sounds like your BF is very conscious of this fact. Are you two really on the same wavelength at all?
This is why people should never sacrifice their career for anyone. If you do something for someone, treat it like “a gift” and don't expect anything. You moved just for him and now you want him to do the same for you, but unfortunately it doesn't work like this. He has better career and established life, so I understand why he can't just move. As a nurse you can work everywhere, so I don't think it's a solid argument. If you are unhappy, the only solution that I can see is to get divorced and come back to your home town.
What would happen if you hired a maid/housekeeping service. Would he agree to split the bill 50/50 with you?
Does he want things a certain way or is he quiet striking because he thinks you are much more fastidious then necessary?
Can she verify this with them?
so you want the internet to comment on a relationship, as told from a friends angle, and decide if he cares or not based on one line ” I don't have time for this, I have more important things to stress about right now”..did you know when people use absolutes like “ever time” or something similar, they are generally exaggerating. Now you using it from a second had perspective (as in what was being told to you by someone else), really makes it a bit much…anyhow with all the info contained, I will flip a coin and tell you the results. Yup came up heads, he cares.
Why does he even have that?
Some hunters like to keep trophies of their conquest.
If you have this much apprehension then don't do it.
Going into something like this should be something both parties want. Otherwise I promise it'll create trouble.
Also, I haven't known any couples who did this and had a successful relationship. Even long term “swingers” have had issues. I don't think I could ever do it in a serious relationship.
Here’s what will probably happen:
You’ll see him having sex with the other girl and enjoying it in a way he doesn’t with you. He may make her orgasm and it will make you feel disgusting and not good enough. I can pretty much guarantee you that your relationship is already over, you just don’t realize it yet. He’s bored and wants to try something else. You’re sheepishly going along with it to appease him.
Wtf lol. You’ve been together for 65 months? What the hell Who counts like that