The problem is that before the sex it was a “waste of time” and she “didn't like your energy.” She's either just looking for sex with a label or she's crazy/a jerk.
Your vagina should expand during sex. Even if he cant get the whole thing in, the sex should still be great if you love each other. And everybody loves a complement
Nothing to salvage here. If the genders were reversed, you would find the answer very clear on what to do. Imagine if that friend was male and they exposed their penis to your new girlfriend.
Small government and lower taxes = cutting funding for social welfare programs that help women, LGBT folks, people in poverty, and immigrants. Itâs the same set of morals, unfortunately.
Thereâs nothing wrong with wanting a big party to celebrate your love and coming together of 2 people. Youâre combining families and becoming one. Just because you donât see the value in it does not mean itâs wrong for others to.
To clear some things up, this has been something very recent for me. Itâs alot more complicated than I explained because no one would read that novel. Weve been together for a few years, I thought I wanted kids and recently I started uncovering a lot of childhood trauma. I love this man and I want him to be happy. If that means itâs not with me then so be it. Iâm not sure if I want kids in the future, I could but for now, itâs not healthy. And the reason I want to stop having sex is because every time I do, Iâm sent back to the trauma. Itâs not something ive told him because itâs new. It is something I plan to talk about though.
Personally I would stay away from all of this drama. And if they donât want anything to do with you, not much else for you to do anyway. Seems as if additional communication is going to fuel the fire.
Chivalry is dead since damsels claimed they doesn't need white knights to get out of distress. You are a veteran of online war games, you know this.
Bullying must be addressed. But anger is very common in game… moreover when you loose. I heard gamer girls going on slur that I would not expect from a sailor. And I have worked as the only man in a 150 people institution. Machismo is not a question of gender, it is a question of power. I know it first hand.
The real problem is the relation with your partner. Do you want him to protect his feeble bf from the dangerous universe, or do you want to be equal covering each other back ? You need to discuss this.
He just started recently. A couple months ago he just started to say how I looked more beautiful without it. Now heâs taken it a step further and insists I donât wear it at all. I used to wear more I have like 100 eyeshadow palettes that just sit in my bathroom now because I stopped wearing it for him
Break up with her. If you think someday she can straighten herself out via quitting alcohol and getting therapy then dangle a âcarrotâ that in a certain period (at least 6 months) you two can sit down and discuss things but until then no contact.
Please donât overlook that she cheated on you. While she didnât physically do the deed she was fully prepared to do so. This is on top of physical violence. She frankly shouldnât be in any relationship right now.
Youâd be surprised how well time boxing works. I talk about my shit for x minutes, then you go, etc. But really each couple needs to find a conversation style that works for them. Friends of mine literally agreed that they donât care what the other person talks about, but theyâll be as engaged as they can be and ask questions and stuff simply because they want their partner to return the favor. Maybe try talking to him aboutâŚtalking.
Well shit. Unfortunately, some of the points that I made above are still going to be the reality.
Fathers have an easier time getting 50-50 custody when coming from a marriage. And youâll likely have to pay her child support until their 18. There will be legal battles.
But the good news is that she isnât entitled to anything in your name, and you shouldnât have to pay alimony. It should just be the child support.
I would say step one, contact a family attorney and tell them everything. Itâs expensive, but this whole thing is gonna be expensive. No getting around it.
No one here will give you better advice than a family lawyer. Thatâs who you need. Period.
Honey, you have very elegant boobs that match the rest of you. Dump his sorry, immature ass. Do not, repeat do not, consider getting them augment. When you have a pair of melons on your chest they are a bloody nuisance. People judge on your boobs and not your character. People get unwarrantedly jealous, They bloody hurt, and then they sag!( Was a B, went to a EE with pregnancy and childbirth)
You continue to be focused on large companies. These are not the only companies that exist. Lots of jobs are still by word of mouth. Digitization will not replace trust.
I fucked your brother is a pretty big tell to not show. She even knew it would be a big deal and hid it. THAT'S that huge ass tell! Should they divorce over this like some are suggesting? Hell no, those people are idiots!
Sit down with a one on one heartfelt talk and then look into counseling, either marriage or his own. Then cut the brother out for good. He's going to rub that shit into his face any chance he can get.
Everyone is already informed of the trip. Itâs just a matter than OP is trying to plan a potluck and have more organization. Which thereâs nothing wrong with, but itâs her boyfriends birthday, not hers. If he wants a laid back birthday, then let him have a laidback birthday.
Heâs flying out to meet another woman. Thatâs why he doesnât want you or his kid on vacation with him.
If youâre close with the kid and want to make life easier for them I would encourage you to keep in touch with the childâs mother/grandparents if theyâre healthy people who want the best for your exâs kid. If the kid misses you, you can arrange to see them or keep in touch (sending birthday/holiday cards, postcards, letters, etc.) through them versus your ex.
Sometimes children deal with abandonment issues when an important person in their life leaves due to an ending relationship, sometimes itâs fine and they never want to see their parentâs ex again. They tend to be more flexible the younger they are so thatâs a good thing. My brother doesnât miss his momâs shitty exes at all but it wouldâve been a huge adjustment if my parents split when my brother was a kid and my mom wanted nothing to do with him.
as a christian whose spoken to those who don't believe and all if they ask, the NUMBER ONE scripture rule is respect and love them. The other person doesn't have to believe to deserve respect for them and their beliefs. This man is not only abusive he's using this to beat you down. This has been noted as a cult tactic. But religious abuse DOES happen. Especially with him who sounds like he's sinking into extremism. Please please don't continue. If you show him that ur ok that he doesn't respect you until you are also a believer that's dangerous. I am begging you to be careful around him and deeply consider leaving.
Are you talking abouy Google photos app?
The problem is that before the sex it was a “waste of time” and she “didn't like your energy.” She's either just looking for sex with a label or she's crazy/a jerk.
Your vagina should expand during sex. Even if he cant get the whole thing in, the sex should still be great if you love each other. And everybody loves a complement
She sounds hormonal and immature mixed. Stay calm, be firm and demand respect, but be there for her. Her rock.
Nothing to salvage here. If the genders were reversed, you would find the answer very clear on what to do. Imagine if that friend was male and they exposed their penis to your new girlfriend.
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âThis can only end well for me.â
Lmfao
Small government and lower taxes = cutting funding for social welfare programs that help women, LGBT folks, people in poverty, and immigrants. Itâs the same set of morals, unfortunately.
Agreed.
I was a daily smoker for years. Cigarettes and marijuana.
My husband and I decided to get serious about having a baby, and I dropped both habits, cold turkey, on that day.
I didnât smoke either again until my miscarriage a year later.
Is it easy? No. But it can be done if you want it badly enough.
OP just values smoking more than he values his family.
Thereâs nothing wrong with wanting a big party to celebrate your love and coming together of 2 people. Youâre combining families and becoming one. Just because you donât see the value in it does not mean itâs wrong for others to.
Right??? OP:âMy girlfriend thinks I might be abusiveâ đ
also OP: Demonstrating blatantly abusive behaviors.
My younger sister didnât want to online with a pregnant woman or a kid
Woah, that's harsh
Why are you having a child? Your entire situation is incredibly unstable. Have you thought of adoption?
Does he even care about our child?
No – what makes you think that he would? He blatantly is telling you that he thinks you're trapping him into fatherhood.
I have very little income being out of my main field of work. Iâm so worried i wonât be able to provide a good life for my child.
Why would you keep a child in that situation?
I have practically no support outside my partner.
He's not your partner. And frankly, you're not his.
To clear some things up, this has been something very recent for me. Itâs alot more complicated than I explained because no one would read that novel. Weve been together for a few years, I thought I wanted kids and recently I started uncovering a lot of childhood trauma. I love this man and I want him to be happy. If that means itâs not with me then so be it. Iâm not sure if I want kids in the future, I could but for now, itâs not healthy. And the reason I want to stop having sex is because every time I do, Iâm sent back to the trauma. Itâs not something ive told him because itâs new. It is something I plan to talk about though.
Personally I would stay away from all of this drama. And if they donât want anything to do with you, not much else for you to do anyway. Seems as if additional communication is going to fuel the fire.
I have had male friends throughout my life. Two of my best friends are men. We do not hold hands, or touch each others faces or hug from behind.
Platonic opposite sex friends are normal. This is not.
Chivalry is dead since damsels claimed they doesn't need white knights to get out of distress. You are a veteran of online war games, you know this.
Bullying must be addressed. But anger is very common in game… moreover when you loose. I heard gamer girls going on slur that I would not expect from a sailor. And I have worked as the only man in a 150 people institution. Machismo is not a question of gender, it is a question of power. I know it first hand.
The real problem is the relation with your partner. Do you want him to protect his feeble bf from the dangerous universe, or do you want to be equal covering each other back ? You need to discuss this.
He just started recently. A couple months ago he just started to say how I looked more beautiful without it. Now heâs taken it a step further and insists I donât wear it at all. I used to wear more I have like 100 eyeshadow palettes that just sit in my bathroom now because I stopped wearing it for him
Boy, bye!
Break up with her. If you think someday she can straighten herself out via quitting alcohol and getting therapy then dangle a âcarrotâ that in a certain period (at least 6 months) you two can sit down and discuss things but until then no contact.
Please donât overlook that she cheated on you. While she didnât physically do the deed she was fully prepared to do so. This is on top of physical violence. She frankly shouldnât be in any relationship right now.
False accusations? You don't even know the case lmao
It is for me
Youâd be surprised how well time boxing works. I talk about my shit for x minutes, then you go, etc. But really each couple needs to find a conversation style that works for them. Friends of mine literally agreed that they donât care what the other person talks about, but theyâll be as engaged as they can be and ask questions and stuff simply because they want their partner to return the favor. Maybe try talking to him aboutâŚtalking.
Donât apologize to us kiddo! You do what you need to do to put this whole thing behind you. Good luck!
She needs help not a relationship
Well shit. Unfortunately, some of the points that I made above are still going to be the reality.
Fathers have an easier time getting 50-50 custody when coming from a marriage. And youâll likely have to pay her child support until their 18. There will be legal battles.
But the good news is that she isnât entitled to anything in your name, and you shouldnât have to pay alimony. It should just be the child support.
I would say step one, contact a family attorney and tell them everything. Itâs expensive, but this whole thing is gonna be expensive. No getting around it.
No one here will give you better advice than a family lawyer. Thatâs who you need. Period.
Good luck dude.
Honey, you have very elegant boobs that match the rest of you. Dump his sorry, immature ass. Do not, repeat do not, consider getting them augment. When you have a pair of melons on your chest they are a bloody nuisance. People judge on your boobs and not your character. People get unwarrantedly jealous, They bloody hurt, and then they sag!( Was a B, went to a EE with pregnancy and childbirth)
You continue to be focused on large companies. These are not the only companies that exist. Lots of jobs are still by word of mouth. Digitization will not replace trust.
I fucked your brother is a pretty big tell to not show. She even knew it would be a big deal and hid it. THAT'S that huge ass tell! Should they divorce over this like some are suggesting? Hell no, those people are idiots!
Sit down with a one on one heartfelt talk and then look into counseling, either marriage or his own. Then cut the brother out for good. He's going to rub that shit into his face any chance he can get.
Everyone is already informed of the trip. Itâs just a matter than OP is trying to plan a potluck and have more organization. Which thereâs nothing wrong with, but itâs her boyfriends birthday, not hers. If he wants a laid back birthday, then let him have a laidback birthday.
Heâs flying out to meet another woman. Thatâs why he doesnât want you or his kid on vacation with him.
If youâre close with the kid and want to make life easier for them I would encourage you to keep in touch with the childâs mother/grandparents if theyâre healthy people who want the best for your exâs kid. If the kid misses you, you can arrange to see them or keep in touch (sending birthday/holiday cards, postcards, letters, etc.) through them versus your ex.
Sometimes children deal with abandonment issues when an important person in their life leaves due to an ending relationship, sometimes itâs fine and they never want to see their parentâs ex again. They tend to be more flexible the younger they are so thatâs a good thing. My brother doesnât miss his momâs shitty exes at all but it wouldâve been a huge adjustment if my parents split when my brother was a kid and my mom wanted nothing to do with him.
as a christian whose spoken to those who don't believe and all if they ask, the NUMBER ONE scripture rule is respect and love them. The other person doesn't have to believe to deserve respect for them and their beliefs. This man is not only abusive he's using this to beat you down. This has been noted as a cult tactic. But religious abuse DOES happen. Especially with him who sounds like he's sinking into extremism. Please please don't continue. If you show him that ur ok that he doesn't respect you until you are also a believer that's dangerous. I am begging you to be careful around him and deeply consider leaving.