A. I never use my phone at the gym, not sure where you got that idea B. When I'm using two pieces of equipment at the same time, it's never when the place is packed and all people have to do if they want to use one is ask. Getting pissed off and calling someone names for making the best use of their downtime in between sets actually makes you the inconsiderate douchebag C. If you don't like people who are self-obsessed, the gym is the entirely wrong place for you to be. What the fuck do you think most people are there for
That does change things. With that in mind, the only way I could see things going back to the way they were before is to have a short, to the point, off to the side, in-person conversation with her (of course this all depends on you actually wanting things to go back to normal, if you don’t care about that then none of what I’m saying applies) where you must unfortunately humble yourself to an excessive degree, and admit fault for the whole thing and ask her honestly if it’s okay if we just move on from this because you enjoy her company and would like things to go back to the way they were. Still, she may say no so yeah I guess this is a learning experience.
Maybe next time something like this happens, instead of waiting until a later time to address the issue privately, you could casually say something in the moment like “that’s not a nice thing to say. Anyways, (start a new conversation on another topic)” Keeping it light but also allowing yourself to express some disagreement. Addressing things in the moment with a single non emotional statement and then moving on to something else is typically all that the average person is comfortable with regarding confrontation (that’s just my experience though), even if it’s gentle confrontation like you did when you called your boyfriends mother. Most people/friendships/relationships can’t recover from even indirect confrontation like you can (same with me) and as you have seen here you expected your boyfriends mom would be able to as well but unfortunately she could not. That’s my take on it at least ?‍♀️
Ah, she’s sensing that something’s off and she already told me that if we break up again, this time we’re done for good, we wouldn’t talk anymore. So breaking up with her is out of the picture, i can’t lose her.
She already knows, spare yourself the stress and suffering and find someone who doesn't isolate you. You've broken up before, you were friends during that time and it was goin good but you went back to the relationship. Tell her how she broke her promise to change and it's just like before, and you'd rather stay friends.
the two opinions would not be mutually exclusive.
can you explain to me why?
It’s nothing to do with that, I’m allowed to want to have a day to myself
Exactly. Please research the caste system and skin bleaching industry India. It's tragic.
A. I never use my phone at the gym, not sure where you got that idea B. When I'm using two pieces of equipment at the same time, it's never when the place is packed and all people have to do if they want to use one is ask. Getting pissed off and calling someone names for making the best use of their downtime in between sets actually makes you the inconsiderate douchebag C. If you don't like people who are self-obsessed, the gym is the entirely wrong place for you to be. What the fuck do you think most people are there for
Jesus with a girlfriend and friends like these who needs enemies
That does change things. With that in mind, the only way I could see things going back to the way they were before is to have a short, to the point, off to the side, in-person conversation with her (of course this all depends on you actually wanting things to go back to normal, if you don’t care about that then none of what I’m saying applies) where you must unfortunately humble yourself to an excessive degree, and admit fault for the whole thing and ask her honestly if it’s okay if we just move on from this because you enjoy her company and would like things to go back to the way they were. Still, she may say no so yeah I guess this is a learning experience.
Maybe next time something like this happens, instead of waiting until a later time to address the issue privately, you could casually say something in the moment like “that’s not a nice thing to say. Anyways, (start a new conversation on another topic)” Keeping it light but also allowing yourself to express some disagreement. Addressing things in the moment with a single non emotional statement and then moving on to something else is typically all that the average person is comfortable with regarding confrontation (that’s just my experience though), even if it’s gentle confrontation like you did when you called your boyfriends mother. Most people/friendships/relationships can’t recover from even indirect confrontation like you can (same with me) and as you have seen here you expected your boyfriends mom would be able to as well but unfortunately she could not. That’s my take on it at least ?‍♀️
Have a nice day
Ah, she’s sensing that something’s off and she already told me that if we break up again, this time we’re done for good, we wouldn’t talk anymore. So breaking up with her is out of the picture, i can’t lose her.
She already knows, spare yourself the stress and suffering and find someone who doesn't isolate you. You've broken up before, you were friends during that time and it was goin good but you went back to the relationship. Tell her how she broke her promise to change and it's just like before, and you'd rather stay friends.