So what you're saying is that you think that I gave off that kind of energy? That every woman who has been SA'd and raped by someone who couldn't take no for an answer was giving off 'that kind of energy'? H that's an interesting take. I feel that you should now learn that you obviously still don't get it and bow out gracefully from this discussion. Because it isn't looking good on you.
If a 50 year old man started dating the 19-year-old daughter of his employee, who he has known since she was 14, we, as a society would light that motherfucker on fire.
You need to allow time to adjust to him moving in.
I assume the lack of space and time to be on your own might be a problem?
If so, the best thing you can do is be honest with him, sit down together and communicate with him.
Keeping your feeling suppressed is only going to cause more problems.
Lastly, abstain from taking your frustration out on him. You agreed to him moving in and he os also going to be adjusting to new living arrangements. He doesn't deserve disrespect.
Be kind to each other and work out what you both need in the living arrangement. π
I'd tell him that since you're no longer compatible that you feel it's time to break up. I lived with someone like this for too many years and it ALWAYS had to be his way, “I don't eat meat and neither should you” like a fool I followed along until it became unbearable.
So what you're saying is that you think that I gave off that kind of energy? That every woman who has been SA'd and raped by someone who couldn't take no for an answer was giving off 'that kind of energy'? H that's an interesting take. I feel that you should now learn that you obviously still don't get it and bow out gracefully from this discussion. Because it isn't looking good on you.
I think itβs probably similar to a girl using a vibrator, where itβs just a tool to reach the end.
That's your sister not your parents. Jesus dude you can't even sort out who in your family your wife is mad at. What did your parents do?
If a 50 year old man started dating the 19-year-old daughter of his employee, who he has known since she was 14, we, as a society would light that motherfucker on fire.
Then why are you so surprised he likes Riley?
You need to allow time to adjust to him moving in.
I assume the lack of space and time to be on your own might be a problem?
If so, the best thing you can do is be honest with him, sit down together and communicate with him.
Keeping your feeling suppressed is only going to cause more problems.
Lastly, abstain from taking your frustration out on him. You agreed to him moving in and he os also going to be adjusting to new living arrangements. He doesn't deserve disrespect.
Be kind to each other and work out what you both need in the living arrangement. π
This was my takeaway, too. She seems grounded and emotionally healthy in a way that I envy and that is, sadly, quite rare in my world.
I'd tell him that since you're no longer compatible that you feel it's time to break up. I lived with someone like this for too many years and it ALWAYS had to be his way, “I don't eat meat and neither should you” like a fool I followed along until it became unbearable.
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If she'd had feelings for the best friend, she would have acted on it and also not referred to him as “like a brother.”
Don't do it.