Look up the Duluth Wheel of power and control. I didn't realize I was being abused until I saw it at a DV shelter. I thought abuse was just being beat up all the time, and somehow when he did hit me it was still not registering as abuse. They program you to totally hijack your way of thinking. An abusive spouse will not change, and if you stay friends she will continue to manipulate and isolate you however possible. Regardless of whether or not you feel abused…you do know you're being treated like shit
thank you, really needed the validation on reasoning. i’m not sure he hasn’t tried to change i just don’t think he knows how to even with my guidance. i do love him though so i’m very conflicted
This situation sucks, but you knew this was short term. Protect yourself a little better next time so that you’re not “shattered” by something you knew was coming.
Imagine going through pregnancy with this guy
Look up the Duluth Wheel of power and control. I didn't realize I was being abused until I saw it at a DV shelter. I thought abuse was just being beat up all the time, and somehow when he did hit me it was still not registering as abuse. They program you to totally hijack your way of thinking. An abusive spouse will not change, and if you stay friends she will continue to manipulate and isolate you however possible. Regardless of whether or not you feel abused…you do know you're being treated like shit
thank you, really needed the validation on reasoning. i’m not sure he hasn’t tried to change i just don’t think he knows how to even with my guidance. i do love him though so i’m very conflicted
This situation sucks, but you knew this was short term. Protect yourself a little better next time so that you’re not “shattered” by something you knew was coming.
I’m not sure what else you need in the way evidence to convince you that you should not be marrying this man.
Even his friends are questioning his behaviour.
Speak to a lawyer and give your ex the options re: him buying you out or selling the house.
Or marry him and watch this behaviour continue.
You can teach your boyfriend about credit but he is going to have to do this himself.
You’re an adult. Start acting like one. Boundaries are a thing. Enforce yours and move on.
Leave.
Before (hopefully) his abuse turns physical.
Get yourself somewhere safe as soon as possible.