The only way she could get the wrong idea is if you allow the behavior. And if you allow it, it isn’t the wrong idea. It’s just her seeing you do something shitty.
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Ask your bf whether he has been contacting or chatting with her personally, or meet up with her without you.
Also, confront your new friend and ask her the same thing. Youvjust met her, be careful. You dont know her history at all. She could be serial killer for all you know.
I strongly recommend a change in either therapists or the focus of her therapy if it's not helping. Intensive pain management. Online support groups for her with others with her condition. Can she go to art or water therapy and meet other real life people? Has she no friends from her job that could stop by for a cup of coffee/tea? Those can possibly provide things she hasn't thought of as well as a place for her to vent as well as receive support that is not from you.
Caregiver burnout is very real, but in your case it seems that the physical is okay, it's her depression, sadness and negativity that is really grinding you down. You aren't a therapist, and she needs other outlets for those issues. If she can do these things and you only have the physical to deal with (and even less of that as if her mental health improves, her physical health will likely follow suit), you'd both be in a far better place than you currently are.
You didn’t give your age. Once a week is pretty good for a 65 year old
Why?
The only way she could get the wrong idea is if you allow the behavior. And if you allow it, it isn’t the wrong idea. It’s just her seeing you do something shitty.
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[59f][28f]My diagnosed narcissit daughter in law has manipulated my son into not letting me see my grandchildren
Ask your bf whether he has been contacting or chatting with her personally, or meet up with her without you.
Also, confront your new friend and ask her the same thing. Youvjust met her, be careful. You dont know her history at all. She could be serial killer for all you know.
I have, yes. He just insisted that he wanted to see my face and that he thinks it's very sexy.
We obviously didn't get to an agreement.
I strongly recommend a change in either therapists or the focus of her therapy if it's not helping. Intensive pain management. Online support groups for her with others with her condition. Can she go to art or water therapy and meet other real life people? Has she no friends from her job that could stop by for a cup of coffee/tea? Those can possibly provide things she hasn't thought of as well as a place for her to vent as well as receive support that is not from you.
Caregiver burnout is very real, but in your case it seems that the physical is okay, it's her depression, sadness and negativity that is really grinding you down. You aren't a therapist, and she needs other outlets for those issues. If she can do these things and you only have the physical to deal with (and even less of that as if her mental health improves, her physical health will likely follow suit), you'd both be in a far better place than you currently are.
Wake up and break up, please don’t embarrass yourself