I think you need to talk to her about why you feel this way. My ex used to brag about the expensive presents he would buy his exes, would constantly tell me about the jewellery etc he would buy for me… and never followed through. Not even flowers. It wasn’t the lack of expensive gifts that bothered me, my current partner isn’t into big gifts at all, it was the comparison with past relationships and the lack of any effort that got to me.
the other way it makes sense is learned helplessness. They shouldve canceled their appointments proactively instead of waiting and relying on a man who they describe as being unreliable when it comes to covid.
Worst part is I knew what was going on because I went through her phone, she keeps telling that I invaded her privacy which I understand and true) I had to force her hands to tell me more and there was. She knew it was eating me up and had the power to tell me . She legitimately holding her ground saying she didn’t do anything inappropriate because was self aware on what her intentions are. ?
People masturbate and sometimes it’s not even about wanting sex. As long as his masturbating doesn’t effect your sex life it shouldn’t be a problem.
If I had an award to give you then you'd have got one. I didn't see the OP but I'm also sick and tired of people recognising someone is an abusive relationship and then being abusive towards them themselves as if that's going to help them leave. They have absolutely zero clue about how abusers work to trap and manipulate their victims into staying and it shows. Either that or they're abusers themselves and know exactly what they're doing.
Dude who knows why she brought the topic up when she herself had a number that she is to embarrassed to admit to
Maybe she didn't expect you to say that she was your first and thought she had to change track and bring on some damage control.
Either way if you don't care just make sure she doesn't have any recent ex's about and maybe find out if she has anyone in her friendgroup that she had been with
Just the usual constant and present dangers you should check for
This is so fucking bleak
Therapist>reddit for this much material.
I think you need to talk to her about why you feel this way. My ex used to brag about the expensive presents he would buy his exes, would constantly tell me about the jewellery etc he would buy for me… and never followed through. Not even flowers. It wasn’t the lack of expensive gifts that bothered me, my current partner isn’t into big gifts at all, it was the comparison with past relationships and the lack of any effort that got to me.
the other way it makes sense is learned helplessness. They shouldve canceled their appointments proactively instead of waiting and relying on a man who they describe as being unreliable when it comes to covid.
a cake eater
Worst part is I knew what was going on because I went through her phone, she keeps telling that I invaded her privacy which I understand and true) I had to force her hands to tell me more and there was. She knew it was eating me up and had the power to tell me . She legitimately holding her ground saying she didn’t do anything inappropriate because was self aware on what her intentions are. ?
People masturbate and sometimes it’s not even about wanting sex. As long as his masturbating doesn’t effect your sex life it shouldn’t be a problem.
what ??
He us starting to isolate you so he can control and abuse you.
I did. I dont wanna annoy her now and am respectfully giving her space. I don’t want to ruin her peace of mind.
If I had an award to give you then you'd have got one. I didn't see the OP but I'm also sick and tired of people recognising someone is an abusive relationship and then being abusive towards them themselves as if that's going to help them leave. They have absolutely zero clue about how abusers work to trap and manipulate their victims into staying and it shows. Either that or they're abusers themselves and know exactly what they're doing.
Dude who knows why she brought the topic up when she herself had a number that she is to embarrassed to admit to
Maybe she didn't expect you to say that she was your first and thought she had to change track and bring on some damage control.
Either way if you don't care just make sure she doesn't have any recent ex's about and maybe find out if she has anyone in her friendgroup that she had been with
Just the usual constant and present dangers you should check for
Couple therapy with this man would be a dangerous mistake.