I mean, if OP had 3 beers and felt tired but there was no consequence I think she's just going to try it no problem, because she knows 1 sip won't harm her in any way.
It’s weird that she saw your twitter handle and immediately started going through two years of data.
Definitely feels like deeper issues going on here. Yes, it’s dumb to like lingerie photos, especially in a relationship, but it’s also strange that she put in that much work.
I'm thinking the same thing. A) she's telling you her “hobby” is more important than your relationship and B) you told her what she did hurt you and she then made it about how you ruined the night. Maybe you could've communicated it better when you told her (no idea if you did, just talking hypothetical) but that still is super insensitive of her.
This reads like the kind of person who treats their boy/girlfriends like accessories, not partners. “Oh something I did made you uncomfortable, how dare you ruin my fun!”
The fact that he saw a future with you after 1 week of dating is a big red flag to me. But yah it does seem strange and kinda questionable. You said yourself you aren't attracted to him anymore, or not the same, so end it. Be honest though. I think he deserves to know how this “rule” affects potential partners.
Can anyone answer why the fuck “it's not the same since it was with woman”. People always say that but I don't think I've ever seen anyone actually articulate how and why they come to that conclusion. From the perspective of a bi woman, if I cheat on my partner, it's cheating regardless of whether it's a man or woman. It has the same impact.
Honestly – by all means, cut them off. Inform them of the HARD boundary of never attempting the topic again under the consequence of you considering it as them choosing your cheating ex over you (and reacting accordingly).
Couple weeks of them being blocked should be all you need to see whether YOU are their priority.
I mean, if OP had 3 beers and felt tired but there was no consequence I think she's just going to try it no problem, because she knows 1 sip won't harm her in any way.
It’s weird that she saw your twitter handle and immediately started going through two years of data.
Definitely feels like deeper issues going on here. Yes, it’s dumb to like lingerie photos, especially in a relationship, but it’s also strange that she put in that much work.
Oe drinking. That's very much a thing, but its cured by not drinking anymore
I'm thinking the same thing. A) she's telling you her “hobby” is more important than your relationship and B) you told her what she did hurt you and she then made it about how you ruined the night. Maybe you could've communicated it better when you told her (no idea if you did, just talking hypothetical) but that still is super insensitive of her.
This reads like the kind of person who treats their boy/girlfriends like accessories, not partners. “Oh something I did made you uncomfortable, how dare you ruin my fun!”
The fact that he saw a future with you after 1 week of dating is a big red flag to me. But yah it does seem strange and kinda questionable. You said yourself you aren't attracted to him anymore, or not the same, so end it. Be honest though. I think he deserves to know how this “rule” affects potential partners.
Fair I guess, I just wouldn’t want to take the money from her pocket
You're going to need to wash shit, multiple times.
Yeah. In the process.
He absolutely is ashamed of you. And he likely in a different relationship.
But op he told you why. People will gossip. And they will because of the 19 year age gap.
Can anyone answer why the fuck “it's not the same since it was with woman”. People always say that but I don't think I've ever seen anyone actually articulate how and why they come to that conclusion. From the perspective of a bi woman, if I cheat on my partner, it's cheating regardless of whether it's a man or woman. It has the same impact.
Honestly – by all means, cut them off. Inform them of the HARD boundary of never attempting the topic again under the consequence of you considering it as them choosing your cheating ex over you (and reacting accordingly).
Couple weeks of them being blocked should be all you need to see whether YOU are their priority.