Your BF need professional help from a therapist to deal with his insecurity and other issues. There is absolutely nothing you can do to have him feel more secure in your interest in him because he only believes what his insecurity tells him.
If he refuses to get help, or if he's getting help and he isn't working on it, you have choices to make. Chronic insecurity makes relationships toxic.
In the beginning, they can be happy at once, but once the honeymoon stage over, peace, rather than happiness is more realistic.
And I think your definition of happy is a vague generalization. What is happiness? Oxytocin and serontonin? Maybe a few hits of dopamine?
And no, not everyone deserves happiness, on the contrary generally people who choose partners like that get what they subconsciously think they deserve
People may medicate themselves with SSRIs, booze, or porn in a bad relationship, but straight, sober, happily ever after is a myth, brought about by Disney movies.
Marriages that seem the brightest and most idealistic can often carry an immense dark side.
Because beyond all of the myth, ceremony, and narrative, we are apes.
Marry somebody, instead, who can help you encounter the eventual tragedies of life.
Like I said, happiness is rare which is what makes it so good (due to its contrast with sorrow). The middle way is better. A little bit of both.
Meaning and peace are better than just having a surplus of unearned positive emotion chemicals.
I'm going to assume this is rage bait, and if so, good job. But in case this isn't, then I'll say this. Your husband sounds more than just oblivious and stupid. He sounds like a selfish idiot. my advice is that you need to stop dealing with his shenanigans and leave him if possible
I donβt really know. I feel like this person could never match with me at the same level my partner does but also probably would go crazy with my feelings. I just want the feelings to go away I guess. Would make my life way easier..
Drop this dude like a bad habit.
You're only 21, why waste your best years on this loser?
Are you trying to persuade him to marry you? I don't get it?
Your BF need professional help from a therapist to deal with his insecurity and other issues. There is absolutely nothing you can do to have him feel more secure in your interest in him because he only believes what his insecurity tells him.
If he refuses to get help, or if he's getting help and he isn't working on it, you have choices to make. Chronic insecurity makes relationships toxic.
In the beginning, they can be happy at once, but once the honeymoon stage over, peace, rather than happiness is more realistic.
And I think your definition of happy is a vague generalization. What is happiness? Oxytocin and serontonin? Maybe a few hits of dopamine?
And no, not everyone deserves happiness, on the contrary generally people who choose partners like that get what they subconsciously think they deserve
People may medicate themselves with SSRIs, booze, or porn in a bad relationship, but straight, sober, happily ever after is a myth, brought about by Disney movies.
Marriages that seem the brightest and most idealistic can often carry an immense dark side.
Because beyond all of the myth, ceremony, and narrative, we are apes.
Marry somebody, instead, who can help you encounter the eventual tragedies of life.
Like I said, happiness is rare which is what makes it so good (due to its contrast with sorrow). The middle way is better. A little bit of both.
Meaning and peace are better than just having a surplus of unearned positive emotion chemicals.
Omg thats so terrible. Streetsboro, Ohio?
I'm going to assume this is rage bait, and if so, good job. But in case this isn't, then I'll say this. Your husband sounds more than just oblivious and stupid. He sounds like a selfish idiot. my advice is that you need to stop dealing with his shenanigans and leave him if possible
Aaaaand there it is.
I donβt really know. I feel like this person could never match with me at the same level my partner does but also probably would go crazy with my feelings. I just want the feelings to go away I guess. Would make my life way easier..
You need therapy for your self esteem.
nothing. just stay and take it.
My dog I celebrated 15 years of companionship just the other week ?
Yeah, I guess that's true, but he wasn't ready for them to know. I just feel so bad
How would you go about changing that?
I know the male body generally has fingers and a tongue and neither of those are incapable of use depending on attraction level.