lol at your bougie condescending parents acting all “disappointed”. you seem like a good kid. i think it's time to set some boundaries and carry on your relationship with a good girl.
I lost my virginity late and had similar problems. There’s lots of advice out there with regards to performance anxiety, taking things slow ect ect. Another big one can be stopping porn consumption. There’s no upsides no matter how you look at it and realistically it’s pretty toxic.
It could be worth getting to your doctor to make sure you’ve no underlying health issues but if you’re able to get hard/waking up with erections there’s a good chance you’re fine.
Honestly, ED meds fixed it for me. If you’re in the UK you can either go to your GP or use an online service. This will ask you a few questions, let you pick your treatment then pay. It’s not exactly cheap, but not horrendous either, depending on your income. It’s also anonymous and can be discreetly sent your home or a nearby pharmacy. Personally I used these for a few months, started decreasing the doses then came off altogether. It’ll just help you get over the ridge, get a bit of confidence in your abilities and what not.
That's a possibility! I have gone several days where I've not brought it up at all just because I feel like I'm constantly setting myself up to be rejected.. I guess it's time to follow that up with a conversation.
I’m not going to mention the age gap because that’s already been raised in other comments. Regarding the trip, it’s for their daughter. You’re allowed to have any feelings you want but if there’s nothing in your relationship history that is concerning and you were originally supposed to go too, I don’t see any glaring red flags. Its not like they tried to plan this and purposely exclude you.
It seems reasonable to expect that they both really are on the same page that they are strictly coparenting their daughter and taking her on a trip that will make her incredibly happy. Disney is expensive AF from my understanding so doing it jointly doesn’t seem unreasonable if they can get along. And that’s better than a lot of coparenting situations out there.
Ultimately it’s up to you to choose the hill you die on, but she’s putting her kid first, as she should.
All the above. Pick up the pieces and take one day at time. Start a new hobby or learn a new skill. Go out and be engaged with life. Be present. Show up and on-line new experiences.
lol at your bougie condescending parents acting all “disappointed”. you seem like a good kid. i think it's time to set some boundaries and carry on your relationship with a good girl.
That's why I made this post, it's a hot decision to make.
The more the merrier! Hell I’d stick them on an entire wall, benches, bed..
I lost my virginity late and had similar problems. There’s lots of advice out there with regards to performance anxiety, taking things slow ect ect. Another big one can be stopping porn consumption. There’s no upsides no matter how you look at it and realistically it’s pretty toxic.
It could be worth getting to your doctor to make sure you’ve no underlying health issues but if you’re able to get hard/waking up with erections there’s a good chance you’re fine.
Honestly, ED meds fixed it for me. If you’re in the UK you can either go to your GP or use an online service. This will ask you a few questions, let you pick your treatment then pay. It’s not exactly cheap, but not horrendous either, depending on your income. It’s also anonymous and can be discreetly sent your home or a nearby pharmacy. Personally I used these for a few months, started decreasing the doses then came off altogether. It’ll just help you get over the ridge, get a bit of confidence in your abilities and what not.
That's a possibility! I have gone several days where I've not brought it up at all just because I feel like I'm constantly setting myself up to be rejected.. I guess it's time to follow that up with a conversation.
I’m not going to mention the age gap because that’s already been raised in other comments. Regarding the trip, it’s for their daughter. You’re allowed to have any feelings you want but if there’s nothing in your relationship history that is concerning and you were originally supposed to go too, I don’t see any glaring red flags. Its not like they tried to plan this and purposely exclude you.
It seems reasonable to expect that they both really are on the same page that they are strictly coparenting their daughter and taking her on a trip that will make her incredibly happy. Disney is expensive AF from my understanding so doing it jointly doesn’t seem unreasonable if they can get along. And that’s better than a lot of coparenting situations out there.
Ultimately it’s up to you to choose the hill you die on, but she’s putting her kid first, as she should.
Okay cool
Alright then, fair enough
He knows she wants to get married. She doesn't know if he does. You should never propose to someone unless you're sure you're going to get a yes.
This is rude af.
Any particular reason you are thrashing this dead horse? Is he the only human male with a pulse within driving distance of you?
Just move on already.
All the above. Pick up the pieces and take one day at time. Start a new hobby or learn a new skill. Go out and be engaged with life. Be present. Show up and on-line new experiences.