Just live there on by yourself. How many toilets are in your apartment/house? You don’t owe your roommate anything. Why would you respect your roommate when said roommate has absolutely no respect for you? Divide the place into your space and his space. Keep your space clean and do not share anything with him anymore. Do not cook for him. Only buy food for yourself. You don’t owe him any explanation whatsoever in any way, shape or form. Only tell him that your done after he starts asking questions why you do what you do. Tell him that he caused this and that your done. Make him feel uncomfortable like he makes you feel uncomfortable. After talking to him numerous times without result actions are the only thing which will make it clear for him.
I commented this on another commenters post here. This is what I would say, but it’s because I wouldn’t want to wait around for him to make a decision. I would be proactive. Hope it may help.
I’d tell him, “what we each did when we were apart has no bearing on our relationship now. If you don’t feel you can trust me, especially without some valid reason to not then we shouldn’t be together. I accept that you slept with others and haven’t pressed for details because it’s none of my business. You wanting to humiliate me in such a way is disrespectful and hurts me. It breaks my heart and seems cruel. I love you, but if you can’t accept me and trust me, as I do you then we should break up.”
Btw when i got my diagnosis, i had a break out 3 years into my relationship, and my bf wasn't the one who had given it to me. I had him tested (without break outs) and even with unprotected sex for 3 years, he wasn't contaminated.
When i learn my own diagnosis i felt so dirty and disgusting i wished i had actualky gotten diagnosed with a lethal disease, because then i wouldn't be seen as a paria. It took a lot of therapy to stop seeing myself this way. So take all the time you need to process it. This is not an easy process because herpes is a highly stigmatized disease that has been very little adressed in the public opinion. There are research articles that show that people disclose the diagnosis when the relationship isn't sexual only, but romantic
Usually that is manipulative behavior, especially considering how she acted in your relationship. Matching her response time can work but may lead to her losing interest in the games she’s playing, which you may or may not want.
That being said, she MIGHT just be busy, or she’s getting bored of the banter without substance, which happens to almost every texting based friendship in my opinion. You don’t need to be petty, but it may be time for you to protect your emotions and talk to her less often for your own health, not to punish her.
Well, now you know how he will treat you once you have kids and don’t have time to clean the house, go grocery shopping, etc. Be prepared for a lifetime of this. Or cut your losses, cancel the wedding, break up with him, and get into some serious therapy to help you further deal with your past trauma so you can find happiness and a better mate.
Frankly this is wild that you don’t know he wants you given the behaviors. Smacking your ass is one step away from getting naked.
I stopped at the 'mildly famous' part. This sub has some really funny fictional posts sometimes.
This has to be a troll lmfao
Just live there on by yourself. How many toilets are in your apartment/house? You don’t owe your roommate anything. Why would you respect your roommate when said roommate has absolutely no respect for you? Divide the place into your space and his space. Keep your space clean and do not share anything with him anymore. Do not cook for him. Only buy food for yourself. You don’t owe him any explanation whatsoever in any way, shape or form. Only tell him that your done after he starts asking questions why you do what you do. Tell him that he caused this and that your done. Make him feel uncomfortable like he makes you feel uncomfortable. After talking to him numerous times without result actions are the only thing which will make it clear for him.
I commented this on another commenters post here. This is what I would say, but it’s because I wouldn’t want to wait around for him to make a decision. I would be proactive. Hope it may help.
I’d tell him, “what we each did when we were apart has no bearing on our relationship now. If you don’t feel you can trust me, especially without some valid reason to not then we shouldn’t be together. I accept that you slept with others and haven’t pressed for details because it’s none of my business. You wanting to humiliate me in such a way is disrespectful and hurts me. It breaks my heart and seems cruel. I love you, but if you can’t accept me and trust me, as I do you then we should break up.”
Btw when i got my diagnosis, i had a break out 3 years into my relationship, and my bf wasn't the one who had given it to me. I had him tested (without break outs) and even with unprotected sex for 3 years, he wasn't contaminated.
When i learn my own diagnosis i felt so dirty and disgusting i wished i had actualky gotten diagnosed with a lethal disease, because then i wouldn't be seen as a paria. It took a lot of therapy to stop seeing myself this way. So take all the time you need to process it. This is not an easy process because herpes is a highly stigmatized disease that has been very little adressed in the public opinion. There are research articles that show that people disclose the diagnosis when the relationship isn't sexual only, but romantic
Usually that is manipulative behavior, especially considering how she acted in your relationship. Matching her response time can work but may lead to her losing interest in the games she’s playing, which you may or may not want.
That being said, she MIGHT just be busy, or she’s getting bored of the banter without substance, which happens to almost every texting based friendship in my opinion. You don’t need to be petty, but it may be time for you to protect your emotions and talk to her less often for your own health, not to punish her.
Well, now you know how he will treat you once you have kids and don’t have time to clean the house, go grocery shopping, etc. Be prepared for a lifetime of this. Or cut your losses, cancel the wedding, break up with him, and get into some serious therapy to help you further deal with your past trauma so you can find happiness and a better mate.
Where are you getting that she pays for most of the household bills? Do you not have water, electricity, gas, etc. where you live!?