People are probably gonna call me an asshole for this, but I (M32) quickly lose interest in women physically. After I have sex with someone 2-3-4-5 times it's not as exciting anymore, and I start to fantasise about other women when we're doing it. It's been like this forever, like before I started watching porn etc, so I think it's just how I am. And let's not kid ourselves, men generally want to have more sexpartners than women. It's biology
Setting aside the grooming, If she’s the right one for you she’ll be happy to wait until you’re ready. I mean she wasn’t ready to get married at 19 so why would she expect you to be?
I honestly sounds like she’ll marry anyone as long as she’s wed before she’s 25 and that’s a recipe for a terrible marriage- you should care about the marriage (and the person you’re marrying) more than than the wedding ceremony. I would never marry someone I hadn’t lived with, hadn’t travelled with, hadn’t gone through hard times with, hadn’t established financial compatibility with, and who didn’t get on well with my family (as I’m close with them and don’t want those relationships permanently damaged by a spouse). If you rush into marriage it’s going to end in divorce. Don’t do it.
Throwing away her dead mother’s jewelry because you’re jealous of her dead mother is abusive. You abused her. You asked for advice. All you can do in this situation is accept you will have no family by the time you’re 67, because this is unforgivable. You threw away your husbands DEAD WIFES WEDDING RING. And your stepdaughters MOTHERS WEDDING RING. If my stepmother did that to me? She’d never, ever, EVER have a space in my life again. And if you think your husband will choose you over her with how entitled you’re being, you are truly more pathetic and delusional than I could have ever imagined.
Or bring your own food and tell them the doctor has you on a strict diet right now (make sure to throw in a “lord knows what this doctor is thinking!” To make it believable) for whatever medical issue.
Honestly. Don't answer her. In that situation I would have ignored her and when she asked… I would have been like 'well. I was in the process of explaining and giving details. But you interrupted me. I figured I'd let you finish so I didn't interrupt you' not answering may be the best way. It's petty yet it gets the point accross.
It sounds like you both just assumed this is how a relationship is “supposed” to be like. It's not. I did the same thing for years at first. But I'm a very passionate person so I quickly realized I didn't want to live! my life like that.
Regardless, you seem incompatible. It's been 7 years abd he's always been like that according to your post. It's jus
Honest question- are you a part of a religion or community that marries young? I can understand why you may think it’s normal if that’s the case. But he’s not wrong for wanting to be an established adult before marriage. Marriage is naked. Do you want kids? Are you going to start pressuring him for kids right after marriage or are you ok waiting for his original timeline for that?
You may not be compatible if you are so eager to commit legally and he’s not ready. You’re both not wrong to have the views you have, but it doesn’t mean the other one is right. I’m not sure there’s a compromise on timelines aside from you at least waiting til after college to get engaged, but you’re going to be waiting regardless of the pto one.
You still haven't mentioned why she isn't included? Racism? Social level? Why? We don't include people until they are married? I would hope she leaves you soon, who wants to a part of that.
People are probably gonna call me an asshole for this, but I (M32) quickly lose interest in women physically. After I have sex with someone 2-3-4-5 times it's not as exciting anymore, and I start to fantasise about other women when we're doing it. It's been like this forever, like before I started watching porn etc, so I think it's just how I am. And let's not kid ourselves, men generally want to have more sexpartners than women. It's biology
idk i just never really felt like this over anyone & i’ve rarely ever felt distant from someone
Setting aside the grooming, If she’s the right one for you she’ll be happy to wait until you’re ready. I mean she wasn’t ready to get married at 19 so why would she expect you to be?
I honestly sounds like she’ll marry anyone as long as she’s wed before she’s 25 and that’s a recipe for a terrible marriage- you should care about the marriage (and the person you’re marrying) more than than the wedding ceremony. I would never marry someone I hadn’t lived with, hadn’t travelled with, hadn’t gone through hard times with, hadn’t established financial compatibility with, and who didn’t get on well with my family (as I’m close with them and don’t want those relationships permanently damaged by a spouse). If you rush into marriage it’s going to end in divorce. Don’t do it.
Why r u tolerating this?
Throwing away her dead mother’s jewelry because you’re jealous of her dead mother is abusive. You abused her. You asked for advice. All you can do in this situation is accept you will have no family by the time you’re 67, because this is unforgivable. You threw away your husbands DEAD WIFES WEDDING RING. And your stepdaughters MOTHERS WEDDING RING. If my stepmother did that to me? She’d never, ever, EVER have a space in my life again. And if you think your husband will choose you over her with how entitled you’re being, you are truly more pathetic and delusional than I could have ever imagined.
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Or bring your own food and tell them the doctor has you on a strict diet right now (make sure to throw in a “lord knows what this doctor is thinking!” To make it believable) for whatever medical issue.
Just make sure to keep getting help after this
Honestly. Don't answer her. In that situation I would have ignored her and when she asked… I would have been like 'well. I was in the process of explaining and giving details. But you interrupted me. I figured I'd let you finish so I didn't interrupt you' not answering may be the best way. It's petty yet it gets the point accross.
It sounds like you both just assumed this is how a relationship is “supposed” to be like. It's not. I did the same thing for years at first. But I'm a very passionate person so I quickly realized I didn't want to live! my life like that.
Regardless, you seem incompatible. It's been 7 years abd he's always been like that according to your post. It's jus
Honest question- are you a part of a religion or community that marries young? I can understand why you may think it’s normal if that’s the case. But he’s not wrong for wanting to be an established adult before marriage. Marriage is naked. Do you want kids? Are you going to start pressuring him for kids right after marriage or are you ok waiting for his original timeline for that?
You may not be compatible if you are so eager to commit legally and he’s not ready. You’re both not wrong to have the views you have, but it doesn’t mean the other one is right. I’m not sure there’s a compromise on timelines aside from you at least waiting til after college to get engaged, but you’re going to be waiting regardless of the pto one.
You still haven't mentioned why she isn't included? Racism? Social level? Why? We don't include people until they are married? I would hope she leaves you soon, who wants to a part of that.