You get married after you fix your problems. She may be worse after you get married because it will not change the problem. You need to stay broken up so she can get her act together (therapy, school, job). This is a bad relationship for both of you.
I went on lots of first dates with “normie” guys, and much like OP, I was instantly discarded as a dating interest because they expected me to show up in glittery heels and covered in fake tan for a coffee date, and when my pale Goth ass rolled up in boots, leather, etc they were shocked.
That was before I told her I donβt feel comfortable with it.
You get married after you fix your problems. She may be worse after you get married because it will not change the problem. You need to stay broken up so she can get her act together (therapy, school, job). This is a bad relationship for both of you.
I went on lots of first dates with “normie” guys, and much like OP, I was instantly discarded as a dating interest because they expected me to show up in glittery heels and covered in fake tan for a coffee date, and when my pale Goth ass rolled up in boots, leather, etc they were shocked.