You want a peek behind the curtain? She's in a spiral of intrusive thoughts. They pick at her off and on all day and drive her into a rage at every quiet moment that drags too long. Every second it gets a little more urgent until something happens to close the loop.
If you want to try, do something big, and meaningful. Make it count. You need whatever you say to be louder than that voice in her head by a lot, and boy you better mean it.
same. i’m 18M and i really haven’t had anything. i’m happy about the person i’ve become and i think that i really wouldn’t need someone next to me but it would be great and i get to experience new things.
I know everyone here is going to bash you. Clearly been through some things in life. It’s making emotionally unavailable and attracted to people who are not available. Whatever that thing is. I’m sorry for that and I wish you were with it.
I know, it's just one of those things I don't mind not being friends, but at least have positive interactions, we see each other quite often and may have to work collaboratively in the future and I don't want it to be awkward that's all
I just checked your post history, and I think you already know what you have to do, you're just making us verify it for you. Abusive, alcoholic, and misogynistic? Get out, you don't want your child growing up under that influence, and you deserve better.
Why put yourself through all that. Everything you said is true and will happen if you allow it. Break it off and make it clean. To delay will only drag you down more. The bf obviously has issues he needs to work out and he can't be in a relationship doing it because you've seen first-hand how that's working out. Anyway there is no peaceful, easy way to break up unless you both are on the same page and want that, so just rip the band-aid off and do it. Until you do you will not be happy.
Military spouse here-don’t do it. It has to be something you actually want because so much is out of your control. Absolutely do not get married for the benefits if you aren’t ready for marriage. There will be resentment. Stay dating, get married when it’s right.
My husband and I have been married for 25 years and not once has he ever laid a hand on me and I haven't ever laid a hand on him. Scuffles only happen in abusive relationships.
Okay so…I’ve had 4 knee surgeries and some other orthopedic surgeries. Why are you falling down? Do you not have crutches? A shower chair?
I dunno, aside from day of surgery getting to and from the hospital since I couldn’t drive with anesthesia, I didn’t need help. I was walking on crutches just to leave the hospital. Usually—even for a full knee replacement or cadaver repair, they want you moving same day. And you can drive once you’re done with pain meds on like day 3.
I dunno. I’m not sure if you’re being extra needy or he’s being a jerk. But if he needs to be gone for the day, have him set up a cooler near your chair or couch or bed to put your ice packs in, some drinks, snacks, etc.
I’m sorry. I think you know what the logical next step is. It’s naked to face but I think you know you would be better off alone. The work it would take to try to salvage the relationship would be monumental and your love languages still don’t match up. Maybe I’m wrong, but I just don’t see a way forward for you both that won’t ultimately result in more unhappiness on your end.
This is the one! Same with my partner and we aspire to have a marriage that healthy some day. Happy for you and your parents 🙂
They forgot their face but their child is a carbon copy and she instantly recognized him…?
You want a peek behind the curtain? She's in a spiral of intrusive thoughts. They pick at her off and on all day and drive her into a rage at every quiet moment that drags too long. Every second it gets a little more urgent until something happens to close the loop.
If you want to try, do something big, and meaningful. Make it count. You need whatever you say to be louder than that voice in her head by a lot, and boy you better mean it.
same. i’m 18M and i really haven’t had anything. i’m happy about the person i’ve become and i think that i really wouldn’t need someone next to me but it would be great and i get to experience new things.
I know everyone here is going to bash you. Clearly been through some things in life. It’s making emotionally unavailable and attracted to people who are not available. Whatever that thing is. I’m sorry for that and I wish you were with it.
finally someone with a brain lol
I know, it's just one of those things I don't mind not being friends, but at least have positive interactions, we see each other quite often and may have to work collaboratively in the future and I don't want it to be awkward that's all
With all due respect m, your husband is demented.
That's definitely suspicious he's suddenly locking his phone.
That’s not a healthy “boundary” that’s the request of a control freak
I just checked your post history, and I think you already know what you have to do, you're just making us verify it for you. Abusive, alcoholic, and misogynistic? Get out, you don't want your child growing up under that influence, and you deserve better.
Why put yourself through all that. Everything you said is true and will happen if you allow it. Break it off and make it clean. To delay will only drag you down more. The bf obviously has issues he needs to work out and he can't be in a relationship doing it because you've seen first-hand how that's working out. Anyway there is no peaceful, easy way to break up unless you both are on the same page and want that, so just rip the band-aid off and do it. Until you do you will not be happy.
Military spouse here-don’t do it. It has to be something you actually want because so much is out of your control. Absolutely do not get married for the benefits if you aren’t ready for marriage. There will be resentment. Stay dating, get married when it’s right.
My husband and I have been married for 25 years and not once has he ever laid a hand on me and I haven't ever laid a hand on him. Scuffles only happen in abusive relationships.
Okay so…I’ve had 4 knee surgeries and some other orthopedic surgeries. Why are you falling down? Do you not have crutches? A shower chair?
I dunno, aside from day of surgery getting to and from the hospital since I couldn’t drive with anesthesia, I didn’t need help. I was walking on crutches just to leave the hospital. Usually—even for a full knee replacement or cadaver repair, they want you moving same day. And you can drive once you’re done with pain meds on like day 3.
I dunno. I’m not sure if you’re being extra needy or he’s being a jerk. But if he needs to be gone for the day, have him set up a cooler near your chair or couch or bed to put your ice packs in, some drinks, snacks, etc.
Hope you’re feeling better soon
You're really worked up about this…who cheated on you? Or did you do the cheating and lose the love of your life by it?
I’m sorry. I think you know what the logical next step is. It’s naked to face but I think you know you would be better off alone. The work it would take to try to salvage the relationship would be monumental and your love languages still don’t match up. Maybe I’m wrong, but I just don’t see a way forward for you both that won’t ultimately result in more unhappiness on your end.