Thanks for the article. I read an abbreviated version of it before. It's insightful for sure. I suspect part of my boyfriend's timeline delays is because, as a whole, his life is delayed. He didn't get a career right out of college. He was actually supposed to go to medical school but wasn't able to due to family issues. He ended up having to get a career in something entirely different (computers). He's had his job for 10 years, but has only been full-time, I think 5 years. He's definitely not financially settled.
As for the dating/singles scene. I think he's over it. He said dating apps depress him. He's been passed over and rejected so much (he's average height and asian, which he says is part of the issue, and I've read studies that agree). Prior to me and our relationship, his last relationship and his last date were 5 years prior. He was single for 5 years before me with only a handful of dates and short-term relationships in his 42 years. Our relationship is the longest relationship he has been in (1.5 years). I'm also the second only woman he's said he's loved (he said he loved his first girlfriend after she broke up with him) and the only one who has met his family. His dad thinks we should marry and has said it. So have my parents.
Maybe he's scared. Maybe it's finances. Maybe he genuinely feels like he's 20 and has plenty of time. I really don't know.
But I appreciate the article. He isn't a stringer, I don't think… and he doesn't enjoy being a bachelor. He comes from married parents (father did end up being widowed). He doesn't think marriage is a way for women to rip off men. We have the same religious background. Roughly the same political views. We come from the same socioeconomic background. We are even the same race. I'm genuinely at a loss.
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, women are taught to say no and it can be hard to transition. She’s not rejecting you, she just doesn’t know how to tell you what she wants.
Not your fault, but I think you should, with consent, escalate the situation.
Like in the bathtub situation “you’re so hot, I’d love to be in there and feel your skin next to mine, mind if I get in?”
She may also have a problematic relationship with sex and have a history of abuse. Not trying to diagnose her, but just saying there could be reasons behind her reluctance
Therapy won’t make her okay with their relationship and she shouldn’t be
You ARE going down the wrong path. He is trying to get into your pants, OP. Shut this shit down or your new marriage is going to be toast.
Thanks for the article. I read an abbreviated version of it before. It's insightful for sure. I suspect part of my boyfriend's timeline delays is because, as a whole, his life is delayed. He didn't get a career right out of college. He was actually supposed to go to medical school but wasn't able to due to family issues. He ended up having to get a career in something entirely different (computers). He's had his job for 10 years, but has only been full-time, I think 5 years. He's definitely not financially settled.
As for the dating/singles scene. I think he's over it. He said dating apps depress him. He's been passed over and rejected so much (he's average height and asian, which he says is part of the issue, and I've read studies that agree). Prior to me and our relationship, his last relationship and his last date were 5 years prior. He was single for 5 years before me with only a handful of dates and short-term relationships in his 42 years. Our relationship is the longest relationship he has been in (1.5 years). I'm also the second only woman he's said he's loved (he said he loved his first girlfriend after she broke up with him) and the only one who has met his family. His dad thinks we should marry and has said it. So have my parents.
Maybe he's scared. Maybe it's finances. Maybe he genuinely feels like he's 20 and has plenty of time. I really don't know.
But I appreciate the article. He isn't a stringer, I don't think… and he doesn't enjoy being a bachelor. He comes from married parents (father did end up being widowed). He doesn't think marriage is a way for women to rip off men. We have the same religious background. Roughly the same political views. We come from the same socioeconomic background. We are even the same race. I'm genuinely at a loss.
Lmao I be found myself jealous.. we get past it
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, women are taught to say no and it can be hard to transition. She’s not rejecting you, she just doesn’t know how to tell you what she wants.
Not your fault, but I think you should, with consent, escalate the situation.
Like in the bathtub situation “you’re so hot, I’d love to be in there and feel your skin next to mine, mind if I get in?”
She may also have a problematic relationship with sex and have a history of abuse. Not trying to diagnose her, but just saying there could be reasons behind her reluctance
Have her orgasms come this easily on other occasions?