“He never owns up to mistakes he tries to avoid talking altogether” so why try to have a kid, if these issues existed beforehand? These issues wouldn't have gotten better, they more than likely would/will get worse. You've been together 6 years, is this the first time you've doubted him?
Maybe he's telling the truth, doubtful, but you never know until you find proof, and if you dont find proof, you'll constantly wonder “what if….?”.
I'll be blunt. Your wife is right to lean on the larger community, which for now includes her mom. Maybe you'll be 60 when the child is born? The average life expectancy for men in the US is 77. You may not see your child's graduation. This is just one of many reasons they say that it takes a village, and having your wife adopt a parenting style that opens its doors to supportive people is something she should do.
how can i do a gut check? Im afraid of making the wrong choice and regretting it later on
Respect.
He doesn't have it for you.
Is this what you want in a relationship?
Sounds like a teenage boy. He probably really likes the attention. Set new boundaries for your work relationship.
“He never owns up to mistakes he tries to avoid talking altogether” so why try to have a kid, if these issues existed beforehand? These issues wouldn't have gotten better, they more than likely would/will get worse. You've been together 6 years, is this the first time you've doubted him?
Maybe he's telling the truth, doubtful, but you never know until you find proof, and if you dont find proof, you'll constantly wonder “what if….?”.
I'll be blunt. Your wife is right to lean on the larger community, which for now includes her mom. Maybe you'll be 60 when the child is born? The average life expectancy for men in the US is 77. You may not see your child's graduation. This is just one of many reasons they say that it takes a village, and having your wife adopt a parenting style that opens its doors to supportive people is something she should do.