No. They don't. Not in highschool. And as adults women care about stability and reliability, not necessarily money. You can have the former without tons of money.
While I do do understand you feeling left out and it sucks that he didn’t include you in a thing he knows you would like, your reaction is extreme. Wanting to punish him is a bit much.
It sounds like he just feels awkward because this is something his friend invited him to. And it’s not weird or wrong for him to want to do things without you. But, if this is a band that isn’t in town often it sucks that he’s so willing to exclude you.
We’re going to make missteps in our relationships. Maybe he’s not considerate of you. Maybe he’s bad at setting boundaries with friends. Maybe he just doesn’t think ahead. You have to look at this within the scope of the rest of the relationship to determine how much of a fuck up it really is. Then act accordingly. If it actually isn’t that big of a deal or part of a shitty pattern of behavior, and he apologizes, forgive and move forward with him. If it is a red flag based on everything else, then break up. But don’t do any kind of revenge. That’s just immature. And certainly no way to behave with someone you care about.
Of course he would still be with her. He was in love with her. She ruined the relationship and caused it to end. However, he’s not over her and you’re just a placeholder. You are accepting that role by marrying him. You are not his one and not going to change him. You are still his rebound. Its on you and your rose colored glasses if you continue this relationship.
maybe the date you guys started dating/said i love you for the first time?
No. They don't. Not in highschool. And as adults women care about stability and reliability, not necessarily money. You can have the former without tons of money.
And if a woman, for instance, wanted to wait until marriage, a guy would be perfectly justified in saying the relationship is not working for him.
Can I ask what about this says hw doesn't like me?
Can I ask what about this says hw doesn't like me?
Um… pretty much the exact way you just told us! “I’m here for you, however you need me to be. Vent, talk, hold.”
have you thought it through from all angles ?
While I do do understand you feeling left out and it sucks that he didn’t include you in a thing he knows you would like, your reaction is extreme. Wanting to punish him is a bit much.
It sounds like he just feels awkward because this is something his friend invited him to. And it’s not weird or wrong for him to want to do things without you. But, if this is a band that isn’t in town often it sucks that he’s so willing to exclude you.
We’re going to make missteps in our relationships. Maybe he’s not considerate of you. Maybe he’s bad at setting boundaries with friends. Maybe he just doesn’t think ahead. You have to look at this within the scope of the rest of the relationship to determine how much of a fuck up it really is. Then act accordingly. If it actually isn’t that big of a deal or part of a shitty pattern of behavior, and he apologizes, forgive and move forward with him. If it is a red flag based on everything else, then break up. But don’t do any kind of revenge. That’s just immature. And certainly no way to behave with someone you care about.
Of course he would still be with her. He was in love with her. She ruined the relationship and caused it to end. However, he’s not over her and you’re just a placeholder. You are accepting that role by marrying him. You are not his one and not going to change him. You are still his rebound. Its on you and your rose colored glasses if you continue this relationship.
So what do you think i should do then?