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You are missing reality. He broke up with you and you are believing all of the stuff he is saying to try to soften the blow. I am sorry, but he doesn't want to be with you. You are waiting needlessly because you cannot accept what is right in front of your eyes.
An addict is gonna do whatever it takes to get their fix. Until she is sober and in therapy I wouldnât even considered giving her a chance. You need to run. Itâs only a matter of time before she does it again or starts to steal from you to get a fix.
Ok read that message back – he has been a controlling (and probably isolating) AH through your whole relationship. The whole dynamic sounds awful đ please tell me you are still in touch with friends and family – ask them their opinion
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How do I get her to change her mind before she sleeps with anyone behind my back?
You can't really, she is inappropriately pressuring you to let her sleep with other people. For her to want to go this far, is scary, I'm worried about what happened at this retreat.
No, I donât think so. I think she was more saying that she would be surprised if I was transphobic because I donât seem like Iâd hold those views.
There are some very ironic suss things about this situation from your GF
> Well, recently my girlfriend has been sleeping in the guest bedroom with Susan. Which is obviously fine with me because Susan probably needs the comfort.
So uh I guess well done for being really open minded, but to be totally honest wtf maybe a little too 'understanding' this also reads to me as your GF being quite predatory of her friend.
Now I'm not saying anything sexual is necessary happening but its very boundary-less and the fact that your GF is now going on about is very parasitic and very much reads as GF wants to mirror the friend.
> She has always been a little paranoid and distrustfulâŚshe suspected me of cheating once because I had to stay late at work to finish a project
This is super common to come from the abusers while often treated is being paranoid its actually a way to terrotize your partner under the guise of being insecure.
> My girlfriend has called and told me she doesnât truly think Iâm an abuser but is still pursuing the background check to be 100% sure.
This to me evidences pure mind games. She wants you to be under her thumb. Again ironic.
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Here's the real kicker. If GF was really serious about this scenario, and she' smart enough to know that abusers can avoid 'detection' for years how would she think a background check and therapy would 100% confirm?
Surely even the most ignorant person about abuse would know that many abusers don't have criminal records and therapy isn't going to screen shit.
You are a survivor, you have survived. Keep doing this. Keep putting your survival and that childâs well being first. Eventually, youâll catch your break.
Maybe volunteer at a temple, dishing out free food? Or learn to cook?
I watched a documentary where retired Japanese guys took cooking lessons to make sushi. The instructor made snide remarks like “Now you know how naked your wives work to make your sushi.”
You are missing reality. He broke up with you and you are believing all of the stuff he is saying to try to soften the blow. I am sorry, but he doesn't want to be with you. You are waiting needlessly because you cannot accept what is right in front of your eyes.
Absolutely Iâll try and see the positive from this, thank you
An addict is gonna do whatever it takes to get their fix. Until she is sober and in therapy I wouldnât even considered giving her a chance. You need to run. Itâs only a matter of time before she does it again or starts to steal from you to get a fix.
Agree with this comment. About the friend stuff and yes sex goes both ways.
Ok read that message back – he has been a controlling (and probably isolating) AH through your whole relationship. The whole dynamic sounds awful đ please tell me you are still in touch with friends and family – ask them their opinion
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How do I get her to change her mind before she sleeps with anyone behind my back?
You can't really, she is inappropriately pressuring you to let her sleep with other people. For her to want to go this far, is scary, I'm worried about what happened at this retreat.
No, I donât think so. I think she was more saying that she would be surprised if I was transphobic because I donât seem like Iâd hold those views.
There are some very ironic suss things about this situation from your GF
> Well, recently my girlfriend has been sleeping in the guest bedroom with Susan. Which is obviously fine with me because Susan probably needs the comfort.
So uh I guess well done for being really open minded, but to be totally honest wtf maybe a little too 'understanding' this also reads to me as your GF being quite predatory of her friend.
Now I'm not saying anything sexual is necessary happening but its very boundary-less and the fact that your GF is now going on about is very parasitic and very much reads as GF wants to mirror the friend.
> She has always been a little paranoid and distrustfulâŚshe suspected me of cheating once because I had to stay late at work to finish a project
This is super common to come from the abusers while often treated is being paranoid its actually a way to terrotize your partner under the guise of being insecure.
> My girlfriend has called and told me she doesnât truly think Iâm an abuser but is still pursuing the background check to be 100% sure.
This to me evidences pure mind games. She wants you to be under her thumb. Again ironic.
â
Here's the real kicker. If GF was really serious about this scenario, and she' smart enough to know that abusers can avoid 'detection' for years how would she think a background check and therapy would 100% confirm?
Surely even the most ignorant person about abuse would know that many abusers don't have criminal records and therapy isn't going to screen shit.
You should pay to accommodate her move since you used her for caretaking until you felt better and now you want her gone.
You are a survivor, you have survived. Keep doing this. Keep putting your survival and that childâs well being first. Eventually, youâll catch your break.
That's fair. Thank you for being honest.
Maybe volunteer at a temple, dishing out free food? Or learn to cook?
I watched a documentary where retired Japanese guys took cooking lessons to make sushi. The instructor made snide remarks like “Now you know how naked your wives work to make your sushi.”
It is because your fiance is a misogynist. He cares more about a misogynist tradition than you. He wants to uphold and perpetuate misogyny.
he was rude and hurtful but it's also true
spoken as someone who has spent a long time on psychiatric drugs myself