Please see my other comment. There is a reason he destroyed the items he knew you’d put this effort into and that were meaningful to you. This was NOT random.
Context: I don’t judge or condemn her for it. Verbally I’ve never said anything to her about it. She’s unaware, I deal with this internally because I know not to judge or condemn her when I’m not a saint
It’s arbitrary and you know it. You’ve been 18, surely. Your brain doesn’t flick a switch at midnight to that of a fully developed adult. That comes way later. So what would a nearly middle aged man want with a kid who isn’t even done cooking yet. Could it be it’s intentional, so he can mold her into whatever he wants? A woman that has been used for nearly two decades to fulfill his gross fucking fantasies by means of coercion… get a grip.
Thank you for understanding. The sad part os that his family doesn’t see this from my perspective. Their parents provide jobs for all of their children and their son in laws. The only person in the family that doesnt work for them is myself.
We live! with his family in hopes that we can buy our own house soon.
Everyone seems so bothered by this. If she isn’t actively trying to spite or bother you than I say you make like nothing happened. Seems like unnecessary drama.
Is it safer in this case? She is likely to meet him again there, it would be safer to reject him directly the first time, instead of having to deal with him again.
Hate to break it to him but the police and mothers also can't determine who you talk to.
Oops sorry lol accidentally responded before from my main acc. Im relieved to hear it is actually an accusation bc I felt like I was nuts
Please see my other comment. There is a reason he destroyed the items he knew you’d put this effort into and that were meaningful to you. This was NOT random.
The he's not being truthful and that's something for him to accept
Context: I don’t judge or condemn her for it. Verbally I’ve never said anything to her about it. She’s unaware, I deal with this internally because I know not to judge or condemn her when I’m not a saint
It’s arbitrary and you know it. You’ve been 18, surely. Your brain doesn’t flick a switch at midnight to that of a fully developed adult. That comes way later. So what would a nearly middle aged man want with a kid who isn’t even done cooking yet. Could it be it’s intentional, so he can mold her into whatever he wants? A woman that has been used for nearly two decades to fulfill his gross fucking fantasies by means of coercion… get a grip.
Great advice, Sheila.
Thank you for understanding. The sad part os that his family doesn’t see this from my perspective. Their parents provide jobs for all of their children and their son in laws. The only person in the family that doesnt work for them is myself.
We live! with his family in hopes that we can buy our own house soon.
Everyone seems so bothered by this. If she isn’t actively trying to spite or bother you than I say you make like nothing happened. Seems like unnecessary drama.
Is it safer in this case? She is likely to meet him again there, it would be safer to reject him directly the first time, instead of having to deal with him again.