Why should he get full custody? Ideally, a child needs both a mother and a father. The fact she is an unremorseful cheater doesn’t mean she is a bad mother.
Selfishly putting the child in a broken-home context is “being a good mother”? As you say, a child needs both mother and father, but that didn't matter to your “good mother”, did it?
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As everyone here said, she will not be fully healed and have her final look for quite some time. Around a year.
But even at that time, unless she is deformed…. There is no reason for you to say anything. She can’t do anything about it. She can’t get her old nose back. She is stuck with this one.
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i forgot to mention my cameras. if we’re both gone, i’ll check our home cameras a handful of times throughout the day. 95% of the time, he’s knocked out under his blankie in his kennel. i’m not a dog behaviorist so i don’t know why he does it but part of me thinks he whines a little when she’s working from home cause maybe he wants out since usually when a human is home it means, good i can come out. i have told her to just let him and his brother out if he’s whining, but then she can’t stand the sound of him walking on our hardwood floor. little man seriously can’t win right now
Whatever you do, do not have a kid with this woman. Idk man, I would be out the door. You can try to debate/confront her on it but I don’t think this is the type of view she arrived at overnight.
… he does not make enough money, you will not be able to afford anything on 53k and when this blows up in your face 5-10 years down the road for some reason be it divorce, you will be screwed, don't give up your job sis, don't let yourself be in a position where you can be controlled because you have to “trust” that he won't destroy your life.
This. Sure, backing out of the weekends is the obvious bandaid on the problem and should be administered, but it's just a bandaid. The issue here is that the husband doesn't want to be monogamous, and tries to do stuff in that direction without talking to her. I.E. CHEATING. The couple no longer being in the picture will not change the fact that he is disloyal and looking behind his arm like that dude from the meme, checking out what else is out there to boink.
Dump him. Your partner shouldn’t be making you feel this way. I’ve been on antidepressants for 20 years and not once has my husband ever brought it up negatively/rudely/hurtful in any aspect. He ain’t it sis, dump his @$$.
Why should he get full custody? Ideally, a child needs both a mother and a father. The fact she is an unremorseful cheater doesn’t mean she is a bad mother.
Selfishly putting the child in a broken-home context is “being a good mother”? As you say, a child needs both mother and father, but that didn't matter to your “good mother”, did it?
Confront your sister! You need to put an end to this before it becomes a family brawl at the next holiday party.
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As everyone here said, she will not be fully healed and have her final look for quite some time. Around a year.
But even at that time, unless she is deformed…. There is no reason for you to say anything. She can’t do anything about it. She can’t get her old nose back. She is stuck with this one.
So there is no point in saying anything.
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i forgot to mention my cameras. if we’re both gone, i’ll check our home cameras a handful of times throughout the day. 95% of the time, he’s knocked out under his blankie in his kennel. i’m not a dog behaviorist so i don’t know why he does it but part of me thinks he whines a little when she’s working from home cause maybe he wants out since usually when a human is home it means, good i can come out. i have told her to just let him and his brother out if he’s whining, but then she can’t stand the sound of him walking on our hardwood floor. little man seriously can’t win right now
Dude, if you and her are okay with the time what do you care what is “normal”? And who gets to decide what's “normal”?
Whatever you do, do not have a kid with this woman. Idk man, I would be out the door. You can try to debate/confront her on it but I don’t think this is the type of view she arrived at overnight.
He never slept with her.
In fact, she’s never spent time with a guy who didn’t sleep with her, so she immediately assumed he was gay because of it and asked him if he was gay.
He then started talking with her about what a mature relationship looks like and told her she wasn’t ‘wife material’.
In person, ASAP, with honest words.
I'm ngl you sound kind of possessive.
… he does not make enough money, you will not be able to afford anything on 53k and when this blows up in your face 5-10 years down the road for some reason be it divorce, you will be screwed, don't give up your job sis, don't let yourself be in a position where you can be controlled because you have to “trust” that he won't destroy your life.
This. Sure, backing out of the weekends is the obvious bandaid on the problem and should be administered, but it's just a bandaid. The issue here is that the husband doesn't want to be monogamous, and tries to do stuff in that direction without talking to her. I.E. CHEATING. The couple no longer being in the picture will not change the fact that he is disloyal and looking behind his arm like that dude from the meme, checking out what else is out there to boink.
Dump him. Your partner shouldn’t be making you feel this way. I’ve been on antidepressants for 20 years and not once has my husband ever brought it up negatively/rudely/hurtful in any aspect. He ain’t it sis, dump his @$$.