I’m more perplexed that she said she would secure it with a check, now how on earth is she gonna secure it because of she had that type of money she could buy it herself and wouldn’t need this man to buy it. A boob job too? And diamond earrings? I’m surprised it wasn’t a ring.
Your mom was clearly molested at a young age and probably thinks you being molested will give y'all something to bond over. She's 30 and landed a 60yo, she calculated this and she's a horrible mother for it.
It's naked being a kid and advocating for yourself when your care provider refuses to, but you deserve peace. You have enough going on at your age, you don't need this crap too. It's wrong, your mom knows it, that bozo knows it, you know it, the law knows it. Be strong, and get help!
25F here! Just wanna say idk your relationship obviously and no one can truly see how deep/intricate your relationship was with him but I just wanna say, intimacy is such an important factor in any partnership. I give you props for having the courage to bring it up and openly communicate your feelings with him. You deserve your nut girl and if he was truly invested in you he would’ve sat down and listened to actively change in whatever he was lacking in. You can find a better man that will help you finish and won’t walk away when he gets frustrated. It sounds like he was a waste of time and not the other way around. Pick yourself up, heal, and get back out there because there are soooo many men that will please you and love you how you’ve always envisioned. Easier said than done of course but I believe in you!
37 Male here. This post kinda hit home for me and reminded me of some similar situations I got myself into in my early twenties. Don’t change who you are for someone or ever feel like you have to hold back affection or emotions. Don’t even bother trying because you’ll never be happy. You’ll meet someone who loves the affection and sensitivity and you’ll know it’s the right place to be.
It honestly sounds like your current gf has some serious control and emotional issues. Tread careful.
Thank you! All these comments have the same inherent flaw as the husband’s reasoning: compromise is important in a relationship, so do what I want, always.
I'm so sorry youve found yourself in this situation. You should not stay just because he has scared you into it, and you should count yourself lucky there is not a marraige or children involved.
I think it may be wise to reach out to a women's shelter and they can direct you to resources that may help your house situation. Your partner is emotionally abusing you so you need to make a plan in your head and pretend you haven't or the manipulation will likely increase.
I'm regards to the information he is threatening to reveal if you leave. You should try to get ahead of that and contact anyone he may contact to let them know his intentions, that he is a liar and should be blocked/ignored at all costs. If he sends you harassing messages you should save them so you can file a police report if it comes to that.
DO NOT LET THIS MAN SCARE YOU INTO STAYING WITH HIM. it will be hot and may cause financial burdens but I think you may be surprised how much better you feel when you're out of his grasp.
You may want to ask her what's the worst paying her share of the bills or all of her own bills without you.
I’m more perplexed that she said she would secure it with a check, now how on earth is she gonna secure it because of she had that type of money she could buy it herself and wouldn’t need this man to buy it. A boob job too? And diamond earrings? I’m surprised it wasn’t a ring.
Your mom was clearly molested at a young age and probably thinks you being molested will give y'all something to bond over. She's 30 and landed a 60yo, she calculated this and she's a horrible mother for it.
It's naked being a kid and advocating for yourself when your care provider refuses to, but you deserve peace. You have enough going on at your age, you don't need this crap too. It's wrong, your mom knows it, that bozo knows it, you know it, the law knows it. Be strong, and get help!
Start preparing your exit plan from this relationship
25F here! Just wanna say idk your relationship obviously and no one can truly see how deep/intricate your relationship was with him but I just wanna say, intimacy is such an important factor in any partnership. I give you props for having the courage to bring it up and openly communicate your feelings with him. You deserve your nut girl and if he was truly invested in you he would’ve sat down and listened to actively change in whatever he was lacking in. You can find a better man that will help you finish and won’t walk away when he gets frustrated. It sounds like he was a waste of time and not the other way around. Pick yourself up, heal, and get back out there because there are soooo many men that will please you and love you how you’ve always envisioned. Easier said than done of course but I believe in you!
37 Male here. This post kinda hit home for me and reminded me of some similar situations I got myself into in my early twenties. Don’t change who you are for someone or ever feel like you have to hold back affection or emotions. Don’t even bother trying because you’ll never be happy. You’ll meet someone who loves the affection and sensitivity and you’ll know it’s the right place to be.
It honestly sounds like your current gf has some serious control and emotional issues. Tread careful.
Why on earth would you ever have a 3 some with someone in your everyday life? There’s no way this ends well.
Oh yeah, I agree with you. I also wanted to highlight that.
Thank you! All these comments have the same inherent flaw as the husband’s reasoning: compromise is important in a relationship, so do what I want, always.
I'm so sorry youve found yourself in this situation. You should not stay just because he has scared you into it, and you should count yourself lucky there is not a marraige or children involved.
I think it may be wise to reach out to a women's shelter and they can direct you to resources that may help your house situation. Your partner is emotionally abusing you so you need to make a plan in your head and pretend you haven't or the manipulation will likely increase.
I'm regards to the information he is threatening to reveal if you leave. You should try to get ahead of that and contact anyone he may contact to let them know his intentions, that he is a liar and should be blocked/ignored at all costs. If he sends you harassing messages you should save them so you can file a police report if it comes to that.
DO NOT LET THIS MAN SCARE YOU INTO STAYING WITH HIM. it will be hot and may cause financial burdens but I think you may be surprised how much better you feel when you're out of his grasp.
Best of luck OP, I'm rooting for you!!