The [29M] hinge match [29F] would have stood me upward had I not texted her beforehand. Now she wants a second chance.
9KTLDR: the title, basically, with the more information that she canceled along with less than 30 minutes notice, only because I sent a two confirmation texts in advance.
I [29M] planned a coffee day with my hinge go with [29F]. On the day of the date, she got strange, postponed the date 2 hours. I agreed. Then the lady didn' t answer while i sent a confirmation text an hour beforehand, “are we still on for 4pm? “…. Thirty minutes before the date, I texted her again, something like, “I' m leaving now! Looking forward to seeing a person, but please let me know if you need to cancel/are not planning on coming! ” I sent this message because I had a feeling she wasn' t arriving. However , I was giving the girl the benefit of the doubt due to the fact that she had expressed enthusiasm about meeting me earlier in the week. A few minutes after my second textual content, she said ' I have to cancel, but would like to program something else soon. ' I was upset because I currently agreed to postpone the time by 2 hours today and I just spent the last half-hour getting ready, giving myself a little pep talk in the reflect, shaving, getting dressed, cleaned out up, etc . I saw the girl text just as I was getting in the car. Had she delivered the text, a minute later, I' d have driven 20 minutes for no cause. I' m 100% specific she would have stood myself up had I not sent the _second_ verification text. I was annoyed, but at least she mustered up the confidence to let me know rather than stand me up.
I let the situation sit for a while, then eventually I told her I didn' t want to reschedule. I was as courteous as I could possibly be, while becoming 100% honest that I felt she was inconsiderate intended for canceling so late, and that I' m convinced she would have stood me up. She did own it and apologize, which I accepted for sure. She explained how the girl was freaked out due to the fact I didn' t textual content her the day before, which I found confusing. From the perspective, she didn' capital t text me, as I delivered the last message on the day previous to that. She admitted to overthinking and I believe the girl explanation. Now, she is asking for a second chance and I' m not sure what the right decision is. I' m a little intimidated by the proven fact that she read so much right into a lack of text messages to the point that will she was going to stand me up. I also really don' t even know if she' s right individual for me anyway, so I' m just overwhelmed feeling like maybe it' s i9000 nicer to give a second chance, but maybe it wouldn' big t be worth the effort anyhow. I feel like I spent a lot of emotional energy plus I' m not sure whether I owe her an additional chance, especially if I might find yourself expending more of my energy if it doesn' t proceed well. Wondering what 3rd party perspectives think. Thoughts?
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Your husband has some issues, he's the one who jumped to incest. That's a sick fucking thing.
There is something strange about it when a couch is literally available in the next room. If OP lived in a studio apartment and the bed was the only sleeping surface, then yeah, it is a pinch. But she could have slept on the couch, he could have slept on the couch, their son could have slept on the couch while one of them used his bed, etc.
Do you feel like a valued and equal partner in your relationship?
Does your husband fit in where you are from? Do you fit in where you are currently? Are there good jobs for you where you are currently? Do you need to move for a good job for yourself?
Home won't be what it was 10 years ago. Are you okay with that? Friends move away or make new friends. Do you have any roots where you are? Have you developed friendships or joined organizations?
Make a decision that won't cause you resentment. It is okay to tell your husband that staying longer doesn't work for you. Moving may not work for him. Maybe the two of you aren't meant for a lifetime together. Don't sacrifice your happiness for his. Half of all marriages end in divorce. If you stay and end up divorced would you regret staying? You need an equal life for both of you no matter where you live!.
Thank you for clarification ,but it does not change enough. You are still arguing, and she still fails to understand why their contact would make any reasonable person in your position uncomfortable.
I think you are too insecure, about being insecure. Your concerns are valid, and you are unnecessarily hurting yourself by staying with her.