I(F45) just found out our son(M19) got into his dream university but he can’t move (? )
2KOur son went through a lot recently and my husband and I would really love some suggestions on what to do. The son has a 6 month old baby with his ex-girlfriend(17). She got kicked away because she was expectant so she moved in with him. That was until the girl decided to leave and move back home. She left us a note saying that she was sorry and we haven' t gotten a hold of her since. My son has been working 2 jobs and it' s taken a rough toll on your pet. My husband and I watch the baby sometimes and there are days whenever he comes home to pick up the child and he' s totally drained.
I was cleaning and am found a note in one of the drawers. I realized it was written by my son and I didn' t realize how bad things really were. This detailed him getting into a fantastic school(didn' t know he applied to college again) yet he can' t go because he has a baby. This made me cry like no other. My baby is usually suffering, and it' s i9000 even worse that he' t doing it in silence. When we discovered that his girlfriend was pregnant, we told him that we were here, yet don' t expect all of us to take over. But now, today I' m torn. I just want him to be happy. Right now he has no degree, works 2 low spending jobs, and is struggling a great deal mentally and physically. He just got accepted as one of the best universities for STEM and has a chance to change their path right now, but he or she does have a child. I just really, really want to talk about it, even though he said he was not going in his note.
ETA- I would like to add that my husband and I are completely willing to take in our grandchild but it all comes down to whether or not our child will allow us to help. I really like the both of them significantly and will never deny help to my son when he or she is clearly in distress.
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It seems like you want different things. Your heart is set on London understandably, she doesn't like London and let's be honest, I don't blame her.
It is best to go your separate ways. It sounds like you really need to focus on your career, the qualification and get set and then look for a relationship. Also she is older than you too, perhaps you need to find someone that's not in as much of a rush and a Londoner.
I just got an AAS that was around $10k. When people talk about these crazy numbers for college I have a tough time knowing how they even managed. Seems like maybe the government should step in due to how predatory in nature some of these colleges seem.
There is just no way you can get around this topic you just have to talk, he can't magically discover your feelings.
There can be so many reasons he bought the topic first it's impossible for me to know. What matters is he's watching porn currently and you need to have conversation with him is he
addicted which might be one of the possibile reason he bought it up
or just lied about it.
Think of Porn as alcohol. For alcoholics it's really bad but for normal adults it's just once in a while thing.
After you've had this discussion then you can decide how you want to proceed.