Simply tell him as much… I am hurt that you've cancelled our Valentine plans, because I feel like I needed that time with you to recharge from the stress of things going on with my own mother. It's valentine's day, it is supposed to be a time for couples even for a few hours.
As somebody that recently got married, the component parts of changing your name aren’t TOO difficult, it is just stressful, trying to keep tabs over which government department has your official document, paying for a new passport even though you still have 4 years on it etc. most bills etc just accepted the name change no proof but had to nip into the bank fairly easily.
A couple of afternoons filling in forms, going to places with your divorce certificate and sending forms to gov departments isn’t that much trouble if you really think about it but I don’t want to do it again in a hurry.
I’m not saying they should I’m saying it’s something that happens. I think all 1:1 meetings can lead to cheating but they obviously all won’t. Not to say you can’t do it – I would never control someone’s behavior and I can trust that you don’t think they will but there’s a chance they will despite that. I am not justifying controlling behavior (I don’t think that’s the answer) but explaining why it happens.
Trust is great but often times it leads to someone taking advantage of you and I think people are deathly afraid of that. People cheat without signs of it all the time.
Simply tell him as much… I am hurt that you've cancelled our Valentine plans, because I feel like I needed that time with you to recharge from the stress of things going on with my own mother. It's valentine's day, it is supposed to be a time for couples even for a few hours.
As somebody that recently got married, the component parts of changing your name aren’t TOO difficult, it is just stressful, trying to keep tabs over which government department has your official document, paying for a new passport even though you still have 4 years on it etc. most bills etc just accepted the name change no proof but had to nip into the bank fairly easily.
A couple of afternoons filling in forms, going to places with your divorce certificate and sending forms to gov departments isn’t that much trouble if you really think about it but I don’t want to do it again in a hurry.
This is textbook abuse! Cutting off all support networks and then escalating his behaviors. GEt out. Get out. Get out.
I’m very anti 21 year old girls dating 33 year old men so yes
Babies can cry for now reason, it’s normal that young. And she was holding the baby – you saying she shouldn’t work?
I’m not saying they should I’m saying it’s something that happens. I think all 1:1 meetings can lead to cheating but they obviously all won’t. Not to say you can’t do it – I would never control someone’s behavior and I can trust that you don’t think they will but there’s a chance they will despite that. I am not justifying controlling behavior (I don’t think that’s the answer) but explaining why it happens.
Trust is great but often times it leads to someone taking advantage of you and I think people are deathly afraid of that. People cheat without signs of it all the time.