Girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (32M) for not paying for her and her friends’ dinner
8KShe’s being melodramatic and ridiculous.
The other night we’ve agreed that I’ll be picking her up from a restaurant she was hanging around in with her friends. It’s a pricey, new very hot spot in the city and they were there to celebrate one of her friend’s engagement, apparently she took it upon herself to offer paying the check since “everyone paid for something except for me and I felt embarrassed for not contributing!”.
While I was outside waiting for her, she gave me a call, her voice was a dead giveaway of her freaking out, she started telling me that she’s in the bathroom panicking because when she just attempted to pay her card got declined and she felt even more humiliated infront of her friends cause of it. She started begging me to come into the restaurant and pay for their dinner. The bill was above a 1000 damn dollars which is no surprise because they’re six, it’s an expensive place and they clearly went crazy at it. I refused and told her to just ask her friends to split the bill. She started crying, hung up on me, refused to get in the car or come back to my place.
It’s been a week and she’s still pissy, how do I solve this?
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? My ex told me the same & my reason was exactly what you said! If I didn’t do something, then nothing was going to get done. So many men want to be leaders without the slightest idea how.
For your question: how can you support the ask if he can’t put in the effort?
You don’t. Unless you want to compromise your standard of living or what makes you feel safe and stable, you do nothing or you leave him. You can’t teach him to be a leader because he’s a misogynist and doesn’t want to hear it from you. You just keep handling life and either he picks up on it and figures it out, or you get tired of it and leave.
First off, please go and get checked for STI’s stat!
And second, My ex husband had an affair with a married woman. That woman’s husband reached out after finding me via a private investigator and told me. I am grateful every day for the last almost 7 years that he did that because I don’t know what could have happened if I had found out later than I did. She deserves to know and he gave you nothing but lies as to why she cannot know.
It's always troubling (mostly to other women) when a woman will tolerate outrageously controlling behavior but then suddenly grow a spine because their (criminally jealous and insecure) boyfriend starts looking at pixels of other women. Based on what you've said here him watching babes on TikTok is about the first normal thing he's done in this relationship. Going through your phone, trying to cut off your male friends, monitoring your wardrobe, trying to ruin your career – THIS is the problem. Whether or not he watches vids of other women or claims to have an addiction is very, very secondary to the fact that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship