But more like, I guess acknowledging that I've become a completely different person?
To what end?
Like be real, your entire relationship revolved around you and your feelings. And here you are again considering putting that emotional onus on her to help you feel absolution. Worse, you'd be going into it in even further bad faith because it comes across part of you wants her back as part of this process, or perhaps that you changed [as much as you have at all] in order to achieve that.
So, have you changed as much as you hope? Or is it maybe that you want her to console you specifically because you worry you haven't. Your post to me comes across as kind of wishy washy on that front, as you make clear in a lot of ways you aren't really sure where you're at emotionally. Seems a bit negligent to want her involved, then.
You did bad things. You will have to learn to do with that. Heck, you are joining the military and that will require you to do questionable things as well. This is going to be a life skill you need, one that really all adults have to develop.
I would agree with what you said but I’ve also heard that it’s my job to get her back since she broke up with me. I’m also worried that I’ll just cling on to a hope that she will reach out for a long time if I don’t get rejected when trying to reach out. Does this make sense?
But more like, I guess acknowledging that I've become a completely different person?
To what end?
Like be real, your entire relationship revolved around you and your feelings. And here you are again considering putting that emotional onus on her to help you feel absolution. Worse, you'd be going into it in even further bad faith because it comes across part of you wants her back as part of this process, or perhaps that you changed [as much as you have at all] in order to achieve that.
So, have you changed as much as you hope? Or is it maybe that you want her to console you specifically because you worry you haven't. Your post to me comes across as kind of wishy washy on that front, as you make clear in a lot of ways you aren't really sure where you're at emotionally. Seems a bit negligent to want her involved, then.
You did bad things. You will have to learn to do with that. Heck, you are joining the military and that will require you to do questionable things as well. This is going to be a life skill you need, one that really all adults have to develop.
I would agree with what you said but I’ve also heard that it’s my job to get her back since she broke up with me. I’m also worried that I’ll just cling on to a hope that she will reach out for a long time if I don’t get rejected when trying to reach out. Does this make sense?