My husband (M35) picked dialed me (F35) while he was calling another women on his work phone using his truck speaker. We have been together for 18years since we were 17.
6KShould say pocket dialed not picked. My husband called another woman when he was out driving I could hear the entire conversation on his truck speaker. He was asking her how her trip was she just got back. She was talking about her trip and he was talking about the one that we went on recently to the same place left me out of it. He was over fabricating stories. He kept telling her he was so happy she had such a good time and he said he wanted to meet up soon she said she wanted to settle tonight from travelling but to call tomorrow to meet up tomorrow. I told him about it and he’s brushing it off saying it’s not a big deal he met her bowling with his friends drinking last week which he stayed out until 5in the morning and he just wanted to know how her trip was since we went to the same place . He’s saying he wasn’t going to meet up with her and he had no bad intentions. He’s a lying asshole who has cheated on me in the past and I’m upset and need advice. We have 3 kids and a house. I kicked him out and he’s still calling and texting me to sleep on the couch he won’t leave me alone and he’s saying it wasn’t a big deal no bad intentions. I’m so upset.
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What grade is this fellow in?
sexual assault is not cheating. Swap genders, what do you say now?
Tell GF
Lol I guess everyone theses days is okay with being cheated on. I haven’t seen somone fight so hot in the comments bruh why are you even here. She wants to cheat lol and of course she would be okay with you sleeping with another man because she knows you won’t but hey keep being naive it’s not my heart that will break, just wait until she start to come home late then not at all because you being a dumbass but hey can’t help it
Exactly. They’ll completely ignore him
He’s telling you he doesn’t want to have a child, so you should think about if this is something you truly want for you, your daughter and your future child. Ultimately, it’s your body your choice.
Sounds like a great opportunity to drop a lot of weight instantly! Just gotta say the magic words: “We're done.”
There is your out, just say landlord said no and I can't afford to lose my home!
I guess it depends if theres other men/people he might fly off the handle about.
Its a common thing to happen, so it bears mentioning as an option
I definitely wasn’t trying to actively get pregnant. Given his issues with ED, we were both just kind of stoked that he came lol.
He already has two wonderful and healthy teenagers with his ex wife, so no known genetic issues. We’ve known each other for a long time, he’s a good guy.
By freezing my eggs, I already did the hormonal roller coaster of that part of IVF and it was a real doozy.
Then don't comment
Didn’t you post this months ago because there was a similar story
Would you be able to fly your parents out to accompany and help you? That way you're not alone while packing up and shipping your stuff. And you'll have to do something about the lease anyway because otherwise whatever damage he does to the appartment will be under your name.
Divorce and find someone who is actually into you/women.
You are his sex toy nothing else.
Someone his own age would be mature enough and sure enough of themselves to tell him to piss off and refuse to let him do this.
I hope he preps you properly so you don’t end up with long term damage.
Stop letting him do this against your will. Say no, and if he doesn’t listen or tries to force you then you know he’s an assaulted who doesn’t love you.
It sounds like she is keeping you around as an option while she still pursues and looks for other options. Gets the comfort of having you around and making out but not the commitment. Do yourself a favor and do not meet in person for a while and absolutely don't do anything physical if you do. Take yourself off the table and you will learn if you are really just an option or someone that she truly wants to be with. My gut would say its time to move on but if you want to try again this is the way to do so, have to make it clear what they are missing if yo uwant to be missed.
He has a huge a****** dump this idiot.
Ah, thanks for informing me! This is my first time posting, so maybe I don't know the secret ways of Reddit. Lol. Though I do appreciate that point I feel like it would come across better by actually saying it to me.
It definitely wasn't my intention to make excuses, I think I just over explain things. Their question was why do I stay and my answer was sincere.. because outside of these obnoxious moments things really are great! I am not the type of person to stick around if I'm unhappy and I don't take to being treated bad. I did argue back with him and did tell him he was being rude to which he told me he wasn't. Which was even more annoying, but I avoid arguments and separated myself. I used to have crazy anger problems which I've learned to handle after years of therapy and just being exhausted from arguing. Now I step away until we've both calmed down and try to handle it then.
We haven't talked since and I do plan on addressing it. This hasn't always been an issue but has steadily gotten worse lately, we are both under a lot of stress and in my mind I was hoping that was part of the reasoning, not just that he is turning into a… sucky guy?(I know reddit is particular on language so I hope that gets the point across lol) I never didn't have the intention to handle the situation and definitely wasn't planning on just letting it continue, but I did want some opinions on communicating and if this truly is normal for people.. which I see now it is not. I do not have anyone to talk to or vent to or get opinions from as a neutral party so I figured this would be a good place to ask and I'm glad I did. As soon as I'm done with work I plan to sit down and address it with him. Maybe we have deeper issues, who knows, only one way to find out and if that's the case that's another situation I'll deal with.
Thank you so much for the feedback!
I get it. I'm not a fan of porn, I don't like how it can disrupt people's brain chemistry and how normalized it's become. When I only have eyes for my partner I expect the same, so why would I stay with someone that jerks off to other people. It makes me feel less than or I'm not attractive enough, so my partner needs to watch someone else to get off.
My personal feelings aside, it's best to gravitate to relationships where your partner shares the same values or loves you enough to adjust to what makes you comfortable. Have you had a sit down conversation with your bf? Does he understand how exactly him watching porn makes you feel? Does he love you enough to take your feelings into consideration? If he knows how you feel about it and does it anyway, why stay with someone that knowingly rolls over your feelings just to get his rocks off?
Ultimately you can't change people if they're not willing, and if he's not willing then maybe it's best to move on to someone that understands and takes your feelings into consideration. Unfortunately because of how normalized it is to watch strangers in a supposedly intimate act there's hardly any men out there that don't watch porn in some form, so hopefully there is someone out there that will care about your feelings enough to change their habits. Your feelings are valid, you're not making too much of this.
If I was at her place in her bed then she'd get to make the rules. If we're at my place and in my bed then I make the rules.
How long have you been married and did you date?
Why did you ignore the signs? Why weren’t the signs discussed early before marriage?