My (31M) boyfriend says I’m (31F) too masculine and I don’t let him be a “man.”
6KI admit, I can have a strong personality and like “masculine” things according to him. Things like playing pool, studying engineering, and listening to comedy are some. I do like to voice my thoughts and don’t mind a debate. I’m a “modern woman”.
Anyways, he’s been ranting often about letting him “be a man” and to stop being so dominant. Small things like buying and carrying a 4 gallon water jug up to our apartment was a power move. Or doing things on my own is showing I don’t need him. It’s a bit much.
There’s something that just doesn’t let me be feminine around him because I feel like if I don’t take action, things either don’t get done or fall apart. He’s so fixated that he wants to be a “masculine man” in the relationship yet he’s the more emotionally unstable one, can’t support me financially, and irresponsible at times. If he wants to fulfill that “traditional male” role but doesn’t put the effort then how can I even support his ask?
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Then buy your own house. You are at the age where you are aware of your life goals. And the fact that nobody should keep you from them. If you get married you can both rent your houses out and buy one together. Premarital assets are legally separate
. Is there a way to go about this where I don’t call her out? Or is there anyone else with a similar experience?
yeah, you just accept what she said.. It doesnt matter really. no person, 100 people, its is all the same. Did you enjoy yourself with her? do you like her? if so keep enjoying her company. you could add this though “hey, i have had some bad experiences in the past with women lying to me. You don't need to do that ever ok? doesnt matter what it is about, I just need honesty”..You cant build a healthy relationship on the back of lies. So just say that. Until something else goes wrong just enjoy fucking her.
They only way you have to treat a virgin differently is to understand they may get more attached and place a huge emphasis on..something that isnt that big of a deal. that you gotta deal with..