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āEveryone has a basic human richt to believe whatever they wishā
That doesnāt mean we have to tolerate it or do you support Nazis that killed millions of Jewish people by dehumanizing them??
Ffs this is about human rights. You got it. Trans people deserve to online, too. Trans people deserve to be safe, too.
I cannot believe how yāall lack empathy fr. You donāt have to understand or engage with trans people but the least thing you can do is tolerate them and distance yourself from people who feel like they have the right to dehumanize other people.
Your relationship with his mum has nothing to do with their financial arrangement. But yeah he doesnāt sound like a great bet on paper unless those kinda numbers are normal and heās gonna be coining it in in a few years
How long had you been dating him? I would say meeting the family is a milestone over the 7 months to 1 year, but that is just me. ( my family is also peculiar) If your family is peculiar in any way maybe just a heads up to both parties wouldn't hurt.
It's only a joke if both people involved are laughing. If one isn't, it is an insult or thinly veiled jab. I would definitely sit her down and make her explain her comment. I've been with my wife 40+ years and there are some things we don't joke about. Divorce is one of them.
I completely get it ā I was with a guy I started dating in high school, and we were together almost 7 years. He changed for the worse about halfway through and at the time I thought if I stuck it out we could be happy eventually. He was everything Iād known, and weād become so engrained in each otherās lives, and the idea of undoing all of that was terrifying.
Looking back now, damn I so wish I didnāt give another minute of my time to someone who didnāt deserve it. I can say for certain that Iām in a much better place now than I would be if Iād stayed with that asshole, and so will you. You donāt need him.
Do not go back tk him he cheating on you and physically abusive.
Text him
” stop contacting me we are done, I saw enough of the message and then for you to act that way so I didn't see anymore was enough for me to end this, you are disgusting and un worthy of me, carry on what your doing acting a single man becomes you now are, I will find better than a lying POS like you, but you will always be a sad man who needs validation from other women, do not contact me if you attempt to come to my property or approach me on the street I'll call the police”
Then block him everywhere.
He is vile he won't stop cheating and he just shown you what will happen everytime you catch him.
Yeah it's totally unhealthy and exhausting. OP clearly doesn't care about his wifes feelings or boundaries. OP's wife doesn't understand the addiction either.
They're clearly not compatible or helping or supporting each other in any way.
OP: like any addiction, chances are you're doing this because of an underlying issue.
OP, I think you do come across as someone who realizes she made a mistake and is willing to change the things she posts. And in the end… that's what it needs.
I am more than twice your age and I have messed up and done dumb shit in my life as well. And I have learned a few things about myself and apologies in that time:
All humans do the things they do because they think it's the right choice. No one picks between two options and chooses the worse one on purpose. So when you sent that GIF, you did it because it seemed like a good idea to you, thinking that others would think it funny, that it wasn't “that bad” or that the race of the person wasn't the main part of the joke or whatever. Or maybe you didn't really think about it at all and just saw something you thought was funny and wanted to share. That is, in itself, totally normal, human behavior.
Now, this is what you offer as your explanation. Because, you know, that's what it is – it explains why you made the choice you made; the choice you deemed the right one in the moment. But that is not what an apology needs. If someone is offended by your behavior, they will see most/all explanations as justifications. In a “Yeah, I'm sorry, but…” sort of way.
And that's not what a genuine apology needs. A genuine apology consists of:
“Yes, I messed up.” (Admitting you did something wrong.)
“I am sorry.” (Apologizing for the action.)
“I will not do it again.” (To affirm you realize that you were wrong and committing to change.)
“I will make sure to do X and Y now” and then doing just that. (In case you did something that requires steps to make sure it doesn't happen again (like “I am sorry I kicked the door in anger, I will seek anger management therapy”).
A real apology is only worth anything if it includes no “…but…”. A “but” is always an excuse. If you absolutely feel like you need to offer an explanation of why you were doing what you did – which is not recommended, but I very much understand feeling this way – it needs to be in a form of “I did it because X, but I realize I was wrong and I didn't think about my actions enough. I made a mistake.”
In the end, you need to think about if your wish to explain stems from you still having the thought that what you did was “not that bad”. As in, you still believe that it was okay to do what you did. If you still do believe that, then that is your choice – but then your apology is also not genuine to begin with.
He said both him and the friend get blackout drunk, which means he would have also sexually assaulted the friend… It's not sexual assault everytime liquor is involved.
I understand your hesitation, I do, I had to leave my beloved dog with my ex once and it broke my heart more than the end of the relationship but
your life is far more important than maintaining contact with a cat
What are you gonna do? Stay with her while she spreads her legs for god knows who? Wait for her to end it instead and take the cat?
Look, at the end if the day, you have the upper hand here and you get to make your own decisions. Take the cat, tell her you know what she's been doing and leave.
Thanks for your response, it helps to know I'm not the only one who is feeling/would feel upset over this. I don't know what to do, really- I've told him how I felt, exactly like this, and he said it was unfair. I don't know how to go from here.
He's currently just playing video games and holding me while I cry my eyes out.
Thanks! Yea I donāt drink at all actually I smoke so when I do drink my limit is non existent. Itās something to think about tho, Iām not perfect so I guess I should focus on his feelings for now and think more selflessly
Like entirely too many misogynists, you think money is the only thing of value brought to a relationship.
Little tip – money isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship. I'm not even talking about fuzzy things that you are also likely unfamiliar with like love, respect or companionship. I'm talking entirely practical things like cleaning, cooking, scheduling appointments, child care and a huge number of other things that get ignored by men.
Yeah, when I was pregnant I wouldāve been over the moon to be brought yummy edible treats, especially as Iām assuming theyāre not readily avail where SIL is if youāre taking them to her!
Iām sorry you didnāt see this side of him before you married him – this seems to happen often as Iāve seen it so many times on Reddit! I hope you can work things out OP, but honestly, Iām angry on your behalf. What an AH. Only you can say if this was a one off or if this is his norm.
I would just take whatever number he throws, look like you're doing some math in your head and let him know that, taking that off the bill for your hourly rate of babysitting a man-child, his bill with you is down to just $25
Iām a guy and when I like a girl kinda but already had sex and stuff but donāt really care that much anymore yeah I definitely stop making an effort. Hard to admit I guess but thatās the truth. Probably should just move on, he probably doesnāt know how to break up and not hurt your feelings
Thanks for the validation, but I really just want to forgive her and get it out of my head, but I just feel so inadequate now, because she was seeking something exciting that I'm apparently unable to provide. It's got my stomach in a knot :/
āEveryone has a basic human richt to believe whatever they wishā
That doesnāt mean we have to tolerate it or do you support Nazis that killed millions of Jewish people by dehumanizing them??
Ffs this is about human rights. You got it. Trans people deserve to online, too. Trans people deserve to be safe, too.
I cannot believe how yāall lack empathy fr. You donāt have to understand or engage with trans people but the least thing you can do is tolerate them and distance yourself from people who feel like they have the right to dehumanize other people.
Your relationship with his mum has nothing to do with their financial arrangement. But yeah he doesnāt sound like a great bet on paper unless those kinda numbers are normal and heās gonna be coining it in in a few years
How long had you been dating him? I would say meeting the family is a milestone over the 7 months to 1 year, but that is just me. ( my family is also peculiar) If your family is peculiar in any way maybe just a heads up to both parties wouldn't hurt.
It's only a joke if both people involved are laughing. If one isn't, it is an insult or thinly veiled jab. I would definitely sit her down and make her explain her comment. I've been with my wife 40+ years and there are some things we don't joke about. Divorce is one of them.
I completely get it ā I was with a guy I started dating in high school, and we were together almost 7 years. He changed for the worse about halfway through and at the time I thought if I stuck it out we could be happy eventually. He was everything Iād known, and weād become so engrained in each otherās lives, and the idea of undoing all of that was terrifying.
Looking back now, damn I so wish I didnāt give another minute of my time to someone who didnāt deserve it. I can say for certain that Iām in a much better place now than I would be if Iād stayed with that asshole, and so will you. You donāt need him.
keep the games, buy your own switch.
put his in the box to sick kids.
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alternatively, go together to buy new or used games and donate those to sick kids.
Do not go back tk him he cheating on you and physically abusive.
Text him
” stop contacting me we are done, I saw enough of the message and then for you to act that way so I didn't see anymore was enough for me to end this, you are disgusting and un worthy of me, carry on what your doing acting a single man becomes you now are, I will find better than a lying POS like you, but you will always be a sad man who needs validation from other women, do not contact me if you attempt to come to my property or approach me on the street I'll call the police”
Then block him everywhere.
He is vile he won't stop cheating and he just shown you what will happen everytime you catch him.
Yeah it's totally unhealthy and exhausting. OP clearly doesn't care about his wifes feelings or boundaries. OP's wife doesn't understand the addiction either.
They're clearly not compatible or helping or supporting each other in any way.
OP: like any addiction, chances are you're doing this because of an underlying issue.
Best of luck
OP, I think you do come across as someone who realizes she made a mistake and is willing to change the things she posts. And in the end… that's what it needs.
I am more than twice your age and I have messed up and done dumb shit in my life as well. And I have learned a few things about myself and apologies in that time:
All humans do the things they do because they think it's the right choice. No one picks between two options and chooses the worse one on purpose. So when you sent that GIF, you did it because it seemed like a good idea to you, thinking that others would think it funny, that it wasn't “that bad” or that the race of the person wasn't the main part of the joke or whatever. Or maybe you didn't really think about it at all and just saw something you thought was funny and wanted to share. That is, in itself, totally normal, human behavior.
Now, this is what you offer as your explanation. Because, you know, that's what it is – it explains why you made the choice you made; the choice you deemed the right one in the moment. But that is not what an apology needs. If someone is offended by your behavior, they will see most/all explanations as justifications. In a “Yeah, I'm sorry, but…” sort of way.
And that's not what a genuine apology needs. A genuine apology consists of:
“Yes, I messed up.” (Admitting you did something wrong.)
“I am sorry.” (Apologizing for the action.)
“I will not do it again.” (To affirm you realize that you were wrong and committing to change.)
“I will make sure to do X and Y now” and then doing just that. (In case you did something that requires steps to make sure it doesn't happen again (like “I am sorry I kicked the door in anger, I will seek anger management therapy”).
A real apology is only worth anything if it includes no “…but…”. A “but” is always an excuse. If you absolutely feel like you need to offer an explanation of why you were doing what you did – which is not recommended, but I very much understand feeling this way – it needs to be in a form of “I did it because X, but I realize I was wrong and I didn't think about my actions enough. I made a mistake.”
In the end, you need to think about if your wish to explain stems from you still having the thought that what you did was “not that bad”. As in, you still believe that it was okay to do what you did. If you still do believe that, then that is your choice – but then your apology is also not genuine to begin with.
He said both him and the friend get blackout drunk, which means he would have also sexually assaulted the friend… It's not sexual assault everytime liquor is involved.
You tell her you know sheās cheating on you, you refuse to argue semantics about what ācheatingā is, then you dump her.
i thought that but if he had one donāt you think heād tell me? other than this incident itās been fine.
Get out now
I understand your hesitation, I do, I had to leave my beloved dog with my ex once and it broke my heart more than the end of the relationship but
your life is far more important than maintaining contact with a cat
What are you gonna do? Stay with her while she spreads her legs for god knows who? Wait for her to end it instead and take the cat?
Look, at the end if the day, you have the upper hand here and you get to make your own decisions. Take the cat, tell her you know what she's been doing and leave.
Whoever told u that is dumb af. Im the same age & was diagnosed in 4th grade.
Thanks for your response, it helps to know I'm not the only one who is feeling/would feel upset over this. I don't know what to do, really- I've told him how I felt, exactly like this, and he said it was unfair. I don't know how to go from here.
He's currently just playing video games and holding me while I cry my eyes out.
Thanks! Yea I donāt drink at all actually I smoke so when I do drink my limit is non existent. Itās something to think about tho, Iām not perfect so I guess I should focus on his feelings for now and think more selflessly
Like entirely too many misogynists, you think money is the only thing of value brought to a relationship.
Little tip – money isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship. I'm not even talking about fuzzy things that you are also likely unfamiliar with like love, respect or companionship. I'm talking entirely practical things like cleaning, cooking, scheduling appointments, child care and a huge number of other things that get ignored by men.
Yeah, when I was pregnant I wouldāve been over the moon to be brought yummy edible treats, especially as Iām assuming theyāre not readily avail where SIL is if youāre taking them to her!
Iām sorry you didnāt see this side of him before you married him – this seems to happen often as Iāve seen it so many times on Reddit! I hope you can work things out OP, but honestly, Iām angry on your behalf. What an AH. Only you can say if this was a one off or if this is his norm.
Sorry for the history lesson?
I would just take whatever number he throws, look like you're doing some math in your head and let him know that, taking that off the bill for your hourly rate of babysitting a man-child, his bill with you is down to just $25
Iām a guy and when I like a girl kinda but already had sex and stuff but donāt really care that much anymore yeah I definitely stop making an effort. Hard to admit I guess but thatās the truth. Probably should just move on, he probably doesnāt know how to break up and not hurt your feelings
Thanks for the validation, but I really just want to forgive her and get it out of my head, but I just feel so inadequate now, because she was seeking something exciting that I'm apparently unable to provide. It's got my stomach in a knot :/