You definitely want to cut her out of your life, because that is such a breach of trust and friendship.
The most adult approach, in my opinion is to send her a message saying that her sending nudes to your husband was beyond inappropriate and that she is not to contact either of you again, ever. Do not engage in conversation with her after that (she will say she was drunk, they weren't meant for someone else, etc) and you do not need to have a back and forth, just be clear that your friendship is done, end of story.
My guess is she will cry and make excuses, and is likely to try and involve other friends, so a short and professional text message means she can't claim you were mean or lying. And, you know fully who she is now- someone who would steal your husband if she could- and you do not need to entertain her excuses- I am jealous, I am having a mental breakdown, whatever- and just cut her fully out of your life.
Well they don't really order online. And what is mostly bought is basic food. But there have been complaints of me eating too much in the past and to avoid conflict i decided to voluntarily reduce my eating habits so i usually use snakes and Uber eats to supplement myself when i am hungry. There have also been similar conflicts in the past like when one time they woke up ahead of me and started cooking but i was still asleep and i didn't even know they were awake but one of them asked me to quickly go buy something in the supermarket close by. I was still tired and it took a while to stand up, to be honest it took me at least 5 minutes to get off the sofa and when i did i went to the toilet first and one of them was actually pissed off because i was too slow. And there was another case when the handyman came to fix some stuff in the house, me and the handyman already knew each other since the place they were renting was where me and my mum lived until she moved. He was supposed to repaint the wall so when he had plastered it first (and then left because it needed to dry first and he was traveling the next day so he couldn't do it that day ) and asked me to tell them if they wanted it done immediately they would have to try painting it themselves but i wasn't necessary for them to do so. But i made a mistake and accidentally made it seem like I made the decision on my own. But even though it was my fault i didn't like the way i was insulted by them for making an honest mistake. Honestly in my time living with them there have been so many disagreements or conflicts that have happened that i have had to rethink myself because as much as i want it to be it's not always going to be their fault so honestly i don't even know at this point. And yes there have been instances when it was completely my fault and i was a fool for not listening but i am not a perfect person and i do make mistakes not even factoring the fact that I am not 18 yet so i will get things wrong but the expectations to be perfect are way too much for me
Why are you married and long distance? Why is he living with his mother?? How is your marriage working if you only see each other every few months? Your husband sounds like an asshole but also your marriage arrangement sounds off.
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You definitely want to cut her out of your life, because that is such a breach of trust and friendship.
The most adult approach, in my opinion is to send her a message saying that her sending nudes to your husband was beyond inappropriate and that she is not to contact either of you again, ever. Do not engage in conversation with her after that (she will say she was drunk, they weren't meant for someone else, etc) and you do not need to have a back and forth, just be clear that your friendship is done, end of story.
My guess is she will cry and make excuses, and is likely to try and involve other friends, so a short and professional text message means she can't claim you were mean or lying. And, you know fully who she is now- someone who would steal your husband if she could- and you do not need to entertain her excuses- I am jealous, I am having a mental breakdown, whatever- and just cut her fully out of your life.
Well they don't really order online. And what is mostly bought is basic food. But there have been complaints of me eating too much in the past and to avoid conflict i decided to voluntarily reduce my eating habits so i usually use snakes and Uber eats to supplement myself when i am hungry. There have also been similar conflicts in the past like when one time they woke up ahead of me and started cooking but i was still asleep and i didn't even know they were awake but one of them asked me to quickly go buy something in the supermarket close by. I was still tired and it took a while to stand up, to be honest it took me at least 5 minutes to get off the sofa and when i did i went to the toilet first and one of them was actually pissed off because i was too slow. And there was another case when the handyman came to fix some stuff in the house, me and the handyman already knew each other since the place they were renting was where me and my mum lived until she moved. He was supposed to repaint the wall so when he had plastered it first (and then left because it needed to dry first and he was traveling the next day so he couldn't do it that day ) and asked me to tell them if they wanted it done immediately they would have to try painting it themselves but i wasn't necessary for them to do so. But i made a mistake and accidentally made it seem like I made the decision on my own. But even though it was my fault i didn't like the way i was insulted by them for making an honest mistake. Honestly in my time living with them there have been so many disagreements or conflicts that have happened that i have had to rethink myself because as much as i want it to be it's not always going to be their fault so honestly i don't even know at this point. And yes there have been instances when it was completely my fault and i was a fool for not listening but i am not a perfect person and i do make mistakes not even factoring the fact that I am not 18 yet so i will get things wrong but the expectations to be perfect are way too much for me
Why are you married and long distance? Why is he living with his mother?? How is your marriage working if you only see each other every few months? Your husband sounds like an asshole but also your marriage arrangement sounds off.
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I knew that weโre OK whatever our size thing would not last that long. And on Reddit it has not. Iโm not sure how you talk to her but what you can do is say Iโm going to get into a healthy, eating phase in a workout face and I would love for you to join me you can start there.
When youre old can have the old ones. You want them so much dont you. Why dont you visit the retirement home. Lots of lonely old ladies there. Take your pick.