20 thoughts on “Walkingwoounded on-line sex chats for YOU!”
I think the key thing is that you two need to develop a reasonable budget together and then both stick to it. If you came up with a budget together, do you think he'd be willing to stick to it? Would you?
The bottom line is that he's participating in your finances every day, he's just doing it under a veil of complete ignorance. He needs to join you in reality.
If you can, have a meeting with a financial counselor. If not, there are a bunch of free budgeting tools on the internet.
Do what you want but be prepared for repercussions. You can only control your actions, not other peopleās reactions especially if you are expecting your mother to find or help you fund your wedding
He does, I'd also like to as well. I'm not sure if this is a strange way to look at it, but I feel that being together, we could end up with an amazing family with more children than he'd be able to have if he started from scratch with a woman without kids (not to suggest he's too old or anything but just with the logistics of actually finding someone, being with them long enough to decide to have kids, conceiving, pregnancy and waiting until that child's old enough to have another… that could be years down the line).
It is early, appreciate that. Our relationship has been quite intense from the off as the connection was so strong so quickly, we were exclusive within a week and have seen other 3/4 times a week since the day we met so it probably feels like it's been longer than it really has. I can try but it's just nude not knowing whether he's in it for the long haul or not.
he barely cares about himself… and you don't know that he's “doing great,” you know that he went to rehab. that would tell me he's very much not doing great, and won't be doing super great for a while. he has a lot of healing ahead of him.
I wasnt saying about going into the ex chat. I was saying there is no need to delete some memories especially if the relationship has ended in good terms. I think something is wrong with you, not with me, you are young and not very open minded, sorry to tell you that
My husband used to do exactly this. Every job he had to do was accompanied by grunting, yelling, groaning etc. He doesnāt do it any more, and Iām not exactly sure why. Probably a combination of things. He had some therapy for āanger managementā which actually helped him to see how his behaviour affected others, particularly his family. He started meditating. I pointed out several times that he was so loud that the neighbours could hear him, or that people were staring at him, and social disapproval is something that worries him a lot. He became competent in green woodworking and just generally got stronger and more able to do physical tasks without injuring himself. He spent time around other men who did physical tasks without crying out all the time, and he obviously didnāt want to look like a big baby around them. He became more emotionally mature and no longer wanted to be the victim or an object of pity just because he has work to do around the houseā¦..
I wonder whether his yelling was a learned behaviour. His mother, sadly, had cancer when he was a child and died when he was in his early twenties. Her bones were extremely fragile and he remembers her yelling in fear and pain in response to any unwanted touch or movement.
Please understand your low self esteem and depression are direct results from this abusive relationship. She sounds awful and you sound miserable. I know it's scary, but the only way to have a chance at improving things is to break up with her. Right now, she is actively sabotaging your social life. With her out of it, I have no doubt it will be easier to make friends and connections. That being said, your on-line friends are right. I have several live! friends who have been there for me and done more for me than my irl friends. Change is scary and daunting but just remember with that change, there are hopes for things to be better. Without it…well, you will just stay in this same misery.
Oh, that is a great information to have. Then it's not towards you and it's not to put you down. I thought about it that way at first! So many comments are probably in the same way!
She doesn't have to cut him off, but you don't have to stay in this relationship, either. Your feelings are valid, and if you want to leave, you are justified.
I think the key thing is that you two need to develop a reasonable budget together and then both stick to it. If you came up with a budget together, do you think he'd be willing to stick to it? Would you?
The bottom line is that he's participating in your finances every day, he's just doing it under a veil of complete ignorance. He needs to join you in reality.
If you can, have a meeting with a financial counselor. If not, there are a bunch of free budgeting tools on the internet.
Do what you want but be prepared for repercussions. You can only control your actions, not other peopleās reactions especially if you are expecting your mother to find or help you fund your wedding
It literally took you months to get the truth out of her…she started your relationship with a foundation of a bunch of lies.
Psycho. Youāre allowed to have a past.
He does, I'd also like to as well. I'm not sure if this is a strange way to look at it, but I feel that being together, we could end up with an amazing family with more children than he'd be able to have if he started from scratch with a woman without kids (not to suggest he's too old or anything but just with the logistics of actually finding someone, being with them long enough to decide to have kids, conceiving, pregnancy and waiting until that child's old enough to have another… that could be years down the line).
It is early, appreciate that. Our relationship has been quite intense from the off as the connection was so strong so quickly, we were exclusive within a week and have seen other 3/4 times a week since the day we met so it probably feels like it's been longer than it really has. I can try but it's just nude not knowing whether he's in it for the long haul or not.
Yes it is. He will not marry her.
he doesnāt care about me anymore
he barely cares about himself… and you don't know that he's “doing great,” you know that he went to rehab. that would tell me he's very much not doing great, and won't be doing super great for a while. he has a lot of healing ahead of him.
The heck does TG mean?
Use toys.
And more lube. Lots of more lube. You wanted this so go sacrifice.
I wasnt saying about going into the ex chat. I was saying there is no need to delete some memories especially if the relationship has ended in good terms. I think something is wrong with you, not with me, you are young and not very open minded, sorry to tell you that
My husband used to do exactly this. Every job he had to do was accompanied by grunting, yelling, groaning etc. He doesnāt do it any more, and Iām not exactly sure why. Probably a combination of things. He had some therapy for āanger managementā which actually helped him to see how his behaviour affected others, particularly his family. He started meditating. I pointed out several times that he was so loud that the neighbours could hear him, or that people were staring at him, and social disapproval is something that worries him a lot. He became competent in green woodworking and just generally got stronger and more able to do physical tasks without injuring himself. He spent time around other men who did physical tasks without crying out all the time, and he obviously didnāt want to look like a big baby around them. He became more emotionally mature and no longer wanted to be the victim or an object of pity just because he has work to do around the houseā¦..
I wonder whether his yelling was a learned behaviour. His mother, sadly, had cancer when he was a child and died when he was in his early twenties. Her bones were extremely fragile and he remembers her yelling in fear and pain in response to any unwanted touch or movement.
Then why does his personality:
Why was he dating someone he thought was lazy and dissatisfied with? Thatās a question to ask.
Please understand your low self esteem and depression are direct results from this abusive relationship. She sounds awful and you sound miserable. I know it's scary, but the only way to have a chance at improving things is to break up with her. Right now, she is actively sabotaging your social life. With her out of it, I have no doubt it will be easier to make friends and connections. That being said, your on-line friends are right. I have several live! friends who have been there for me and done more for me than my irl friends. Change is scary and daunting but just remember with that change, there are hopes for things to be better. Without it…well, you will just stay in this same misery.
When you are both sitting down tonight, tell him, simply tell him:
“how was your day?”
“well…. I took a pregnancy test today and I found out we're having a baby!”
Or something along those lines.
Oh, that is a great information to have. Then it's not towards you and it's not to put you down. I thought about it that way at first! So many comments are probably in the same way!
She doesn't have to cut him off, but you don't have to stay in this relationship, either. Your feelings are valid, and if you want to leave, you are justified.
Holy shit!
Sweetie! Absolutely nothing in your post sayās āliving relationshipā.
There is absolutely nothing wrong about having conversations regarding what each other likes and wants in bed. But, thisā¦. Just wrong.
Stop making excuses for a person who insults you!!
Being drunk does not preclude being truthful. Alcohol lowers inhibitions so believe him when he tells you this shit.
Leave before he does more damage.
What exactly are you going for. You and your friend should stay home if heās not the one for her. Itās wasting everyones time
Time to get rid of the dead weight OP. Let it go let it go let it goooooo…
Heās a control freak with expectations of you fulfilling every gendered role and I would run away as fast as I could.