Very creepy, inappropriate & odd. He DID cross a boundary. He couldn’t have been more thoughtless in this situation. He knew it wasn’t appropriate the why he made sure you didn’t see the gifts before your she opened the package.
Maybe he doesn't want an intimate photo of himself to be seen by his friends and family. The fact that you've met them and he's introduced you, I assume, a shis girlfriend then what do you have to worry about?
I should have mentioned that he has said this “joke” in the past too, it has been around for quite some time. I do genuinely think he says it in a joking manner, sometimes he just says it A LOT, and usually after I say something he disagrees with or when I disagree with him.
My main concern was that he resorted to the silent treatment, I didn't think that my response would get him this upset. So I feel guilty, I feel that maybe I am too sensitive and he might be frustrated with my sensitivity.
He says one of his love languages is being playfully mean, making jokes like that, etc. He does match it with affection through hugs, kisses, the things I like etc. But sometimes I just really don't like the jokes and meanness. Then again I feel bad for not fully accepting this part of him and how he wants to “express” his love.
I will most likely do what you said and approach it was a “learning” stance rather than get defensive or angry, for that will not fix anything. This is frustrating.
It’s easier to seem like a capable adult in the beginning of the relationship. After all, beginning communication is mostly I love you/endearments/here’s my story/you’re so interesting. It’s when you dig in and have something happen that real communication ability is displayed.
I understand you’ve fallen for him but he’s emotionally immature enough that he can’t even communicate. You’re in your 30’s. This just isn’t acceptable at this stage of life. I’d send him a message saying I consider us broken up, best of luck.
Sounds like he needs to get his money up, not his funny up fr on god
Very creepy, inappropriate & odd. He DID cross a boundary. He couldn’t have been more thoughtless in this situation. He knew it wasn’t appropriate the why he made sure you didn’t see the gifts before your she opened the package.
Maybe he doesn't want an intimate photo of himself to be seen by his friends and family. The fact that you've met them and he's introduced you, I assume, a shis girlfriend then what do you have to worry about?
I should have mentioned that he has said this “joke” in the past too, it has been around for quite some time. I do genuinely think he says it in a joking manner, sometimes he just says it A LOT, and usually after I say something he disagrees with or when I disagree with him.
My main concern was that he resorted to the silent treatment, I didn't think that my response would get him this upset. So I feel guilty, I feel that maybe I am too sensitive and he might be frustrated with my sensitivity.
He says one of his love languages is being playfully mean, making jokes like that, etc. He does match it with affection through hugs, kisses, the things I like etc. But sometimes I just really don't like the jokes and meanness. Then again I feel bad for not fully accepting this part of him and how he wants to “express” his love.
I will most likely do what you said and approach it was a “learning” stance rather than get defensive or angry, for that will not fix anything. This is frustrating.
It’s easier to seem like a capable adult in the beginning of the relationship. After all, beginning communication is mostly I love you/endearments/here’s my story/you’re so interesting. It’s when you dig in and have something happen that real communication ability is displayed.
I understand you’ve fallen for him but he’s emotionally immature enough that he can’t even communicate. You’re in your 30’s. This just isn’t acceptable at this stage of life. I’d send him a message saying I consider us broken up, best of luck.
No one in history has cheated, and then spun a narrative to try to hide what really happened while trickle truthing their partner, so damn, good point