My (22f) fiancé (22m) gave me a curfew and an ultimatum. What do I do?
9KThrowaway account. I’m not even sure what to say honestly. I’ll try to make this short though. My fiancé and I moved to a new city last summer. We’re both in school and have jobs so we haven’t had much time to get out and explore, let alone have time to make friends. A few weeks ago, I finally hung out with some classmates on the last day of our spring semester, which was nice because I had started to get quite sad and lonely. I had started to make friends and invited some to a picnic on Memorial Day. Everyone except one guy flaked. My classmate and I ended up hanging out for a while and then went to get drinks at a bar. We just talked a lot about our difficult upbringings and being a POC in our scientific field and specific city. He told me a lot about his girlfriend as well, whom I’ve met before. Overall, it was the first time I felt like I had made a friend in the 10 months in our new city, which I value a lot because I have a difficult time making friends due to social anxiety and whatnot. All in all, I lost track of time and got home around 2am (I wasn’t drunk though). Mind you, my fiancé has my location at all times (I was less than 20 mins from our place), he knew who I was with, and I called him 6/7 times the whole time I was gone, plus sent text updates as well. However, when I got home, My fiancé was furious and said if I ever stayed out that late again, he would leave me and then he also gave me curfews to follow for the future. I apologized, I listened to his feelings, and said it wouldn’t happen again… but overall, I just can’t help but feel weird about him giving me a curfew and an ultimatum. I don’t and wouldn’t do that to him. What should I do?/What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Edit: I do understand like the whole not hanging out with member of the opposite sex thing, and I can see why he would be uncomfortable. However, we both have completely platonic close friends that are members of the opposite sex (I have two close male friends, he has ~5 close female friends), so I didn’t think that making a friend of the opposite sex would really be an issue at the time.
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