My girlfriend is too rigid with sleep and it is getting in the way of our (25F & 30M) relationship.
8KMy girlfriend (25F) is too rigid with sleep and it’s getting in the way of our relationship
So today is my (30M) 30th birthday. My girlfriend is also coming home today from a trip in Europe celebrating her graduating grad school. The plan was I pick her up from the airport, then e drive to a restaurant and have a birthday dinner. I’m having a real celebration with friends on Friday. However, her flight is being delayed and instead of getting in at around 2:30, she’s getting in closer to 5:30. After picking her up and dropping off her stuff, we won’t be able to make our 7:00 reservations. I called the restaurant and was able to push back my reservation for 8:00. She said that was too late for her and asked if we can do another day as she will be jet lagged and tired.
On top of that she expects me to sleep on my couch tonight. She lives 10 minutes away from me. Her plan was that her mom sleeps at her apartment, she sleeps in my bed, and I sleep on my couch. She said she needs the rest after being jet lagged. I wasn’t willing to do this, as I have to wake up at 6 AM every morning to go to work. I’m still a month into the job, and also want a decent night sleep. She says that she’s seen me sleep in uncomfortable positions all the time, and that I’m not being chivalrous. I don’t even care that it’s my birthday, or my bed, I want to do well at work. She says the lack of empathy for her is super telling.
On top of all that, my new job which requires a 6 Am wake up call was enough for her to decide that she didn’t want to move in together. I promised her that the second my alarm went off, I would get up and not make a peep, but she told me she is a super light sleeper, and won’t be able to fall back asleep and she won’t be able to function with 8 hours.
How do I confront her and tell her, that I still love her but her rigidness with sleep feels unreasonable to me?
Edit: we’re still getting dinner and sleeping in the same bed:)
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