My (24f) husband (24m)got a second job, we mysteriously have no more money than before.
4KSeveral months ago, my husband and I purchased a house. Obviously this mostly drained our savings, and we needed to budget well to repair the home and buy furniture within a reasonable timeline. (Actual repairs, not just wanting new home decor) We are relatively comfortable with the jobs we already have, but he wanted to take up a second job.
I must stress that this was NOT necessary and we were perfectly on track to do what we needed with our current income as long as we were careful. I was less than thrilled with this on the basis that he would be gone late nights frequently, i would miss him, I would objectively have to do more house work at our current place and repairing the “new” house. I can’t tell him what to do, I just let him know I didn’t think it was necessary.
So several months ago he started at basically a food service job. In exchange for him leaving me with some additional housework, he covered an additional bill for me that was relatively insignificant (not to sound ungrateful but the math isn’t working out here). Prior to this everything was 50/50.
I guess I’m confused because aside from him covering a few minimal expenses it is still nearly 50/50. He also has been mentioning over and over that he has to be careful with his money because he has less than me at this point despite making at LEAST $175 more than me a week with his other job. I had a nude time believing he had that much less than me and almost asked him to show me his account because the amount he said he had was not logical.
This is NOT about money really, I can’t get over feeling like something is up. His behavior has changed a lot. Half of me thinks he’s not working as many hours as he says. I don’t necessarily think it’s cheating, either. I really don’t know. There’s the obvious list of things money can go to that he wouldn’t want to share with me.
Before you say “just talk to him“, I have calmly asked him how this is possible and he didn’t have a real answer besides “beer and cigarettes”. I expressed that I’m legitimately skeptical of that and he just shrugged it off and stuck with that, I somewhat want to check his bank transactions (deposits and withdrawals) but I hate to assume he’s lying because he really hasnt before.
How do I deal with this ?
TLDR: My husband picked up a part time job , somehow has less money than me despite us making the same at our day job. I don’t know what to think. Even though I trust him I have a VERY strange feeling and will be able to elaborate on how his behavior is different in the comments.
Edit : yeah y’all pretty sure it’s coke. not getting a divorce or anything. we’ll work on it.
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