Slap that boomer and leave- exert that dominance and make sure he’s well aware of it. Better yet- kick him out. Make sure you say something about female power and individuality and marching for women and pussy hats- if that doesn’t kill him- we can work on a better plan. You got this!
It's very normal to prioritize your children over your spouse, and when you do have kids, there will definitely be (a lot of) times when you prioritize them over your marriage. His attitude makes a lot more sense if you think of his siblings as playing the part in his life that children usually do. He raised them, and it doesn't sound like they have anyone else, so he essentially is their parent.
If you married someone who had children from a previous relationship, no one would question him putting their needs first. I'm not sure why so many people here are taking issue with it.
That said, he definitely should have talked to you before moving them in!
You could consider that you – Native Speakertm – don't actually know how to pronounce the words you are using correctly.
Also, thinking that you know better than your bf just because you are a Native Speakertm is really hostile. If he learned British English vs. American English, there are definite differences, and neither is wrong. There are differences in terminology between British English vs. American English (sledge vs. sleigh springs to mind, amongst many others).
Dating / having friends from other countries should be an enriching experience. Not an experience where you double down and prove there is only 1 way to do things correctly.
Honestly there isn't an easy answer to this. I can sort of see where she is coming from, but it strikes me as her also being very emotional and unreasonable.
Like, it's so obviously not a relationship dynamic that can work, if she expects to never talk about her feelings with her partner. That strikes me as very childish, like she is holding a grudge and wants you to “pay for your mistakes” by making you worry more.
Might not be a great fit, as she obviously doesn't want to try and make the relationship any better, she's treating this like a fight where she has to be right and you are wrong. Not healthy or productive at all. Sounds frustrating.
And yeah, you shouldn't have brought up your ex, but she has gone too far with the whole thing imo. It's not making things better, just making it way worse.
I would be asking myself if I want to be dating somebody who is this stubborn and childish.
Silence costs money… if she wants silence she needs to get her own place with no room-mates and no adjoining bathroom… as long as you're reasonably trying to not interrupt her sleep, I'd file this under “life happens, get over it”. (as in she should get over it)
Ugh. Why?
Poor guy, I feel bad for your husband after reading these Reddit comments. I don’t think he meant any harm.
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Are you manic right now OP? I’m not asking in a snarky way, this genuinely reads as manic. I cannot follow your logic at all.
Pleas get some sleep. And lay off the memes since they weren’t into it.
Slap that boomer and leave- exert that dominance and make sure he’s well aware of it. Better yet- kick him out. Make sure you say something about female power and individuality and marching for women and pussy hats- if that doesn’t kill him- we can work on a better plan. You got this!
You don't know how, I get it.
It's very normal to prioritize your children over your spouse, and when you do have kids, there will definitely be (a lot of) times when you prioritize them over your marriage. His attitude makes a lot more sense if you think of his siblings as playing the part in his life that children usually do. He raised them, and it doesn't sound like they have anyone else, so he essentially is their parent.
If you married someone who had children from a previous relationship, no one would question him putting their needs first. I'm not sure why so many people here are taking issue with it.
That said, he definitely should have talked to you before moving them in!
You could consider that you – Native Speakertm – don't actually know how to pronounce the words you are using correctly.
Also, thinking that you know better than your bf just because you are a Native Speakertm is really hostile. If he learned British English vs. American English, there are definite differences, and neither is wrong. There are differences in terminology between British English vs. American English (sledge vs. sleigh springs to mind, amongst many others).
Dating / having friends from other countries should be an enriching experience. Not an experience where you double down and prove there is only 1 way to do things correctly.
Thanks & no worries.
Honestly there isn't an easy answer to this. I can sort of see where she is coming from, but it strikes me as her also being very emotional and unreasonable.
Like, it's so obviously not a relationship dynamic that can work, if she expects to never talk about her feelings with her partner. That strikes me as very childish, like she is holding a grudge and wants you to “pay for your mistakes” by making you worry more.
Might not be a great fit, as she obviously doesn't want to try and make the relationship any better, she's treating this like a fight where she has to be right and you are wrong. Not healthy or productive at all. Sounds frustrating.
And yeah, you shouldn't have brought up your ex, but she has gone too far with the whole thing imo. It's not making things better, just making it way worse.
I would be asking myself if I want to be dating somebody who is this stubborn and childish.
You could have him use a strap on.
Silence costs money… if she wants silence she needs to get her own place with no room-mates and no adjoining bathroom… as long as you're reasonably trying to not interrupt her sleep, I'd file this under “life happens, get over it”. (as in she should get over it)