My (23F) boyfriend’s mother (56F) keeps putting an ingredient I’m allergic to in her dishes.
2KThis has been somewhat of a nightmare so any advice would be amazing.
My boyfriend is also 23 for clarity.
I have a garlic allergy. It's not lethal, and I definitely wouldn't get anaphylaxis or something from it. The problem is that I get asthma if I eat it and it'll really mess with my digestion later.
Everyone in my life knows that I can't have garlic and I won't have garlic. It makes eating out a nightmare because of how prevalent it is. So usually my boyfriend and I have date nights at our apartment and we cook for each other.
But my boyfriend's mom has a family tradition and she insists we all come to dinner at least once a month. She's a fantastic cook and usually a really nice lady to be around, but there's one problem.
She wants me to come every time, but she always adds garlic! To every dish!
At this point, I've just started taking an inhaler and just eating the Hawaiian rolls she always serves. My boyfriend drives us, and we just go get fast food right after.
We've talked to her over and over again about the garlic. I've asked her over and over to please not use garlic. And she says she doesn't understand how it's “such a big deal” because “it's not like you'll die”.
I've tried skipping the meals, but she throws a fit and drags her entire family into it. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now and I'm best friends with his sister. I'm at my wits end.
How do I get this through to her?
TLDR: My boyfriend's mom insists on serving food with garlic at every meal even though I'm allergic.
ETA: I have brought my own food before, usually something simple like a mac and cheese. I did it twice, but both times she was angry and basically made for an incredibly unhappy evening.
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