Trust your gut. The way you describe him he sounds almost predatory. Like he was attempting to Love Bomb but was so insincere he missed the mark. And the watching you seems calculated, like he's sizing you up, judging how aware of your surroundings you are.
I've probably read too many creepy Reddit stories but this reminds me of a story I came across where a PI was investigating a missing person and turned out the guy the missing woman was dating was a “lure”. A good looking, charming guy who would pretend to be in a relationship with young women and get her to go visit him in another city and then snatch her never to be seen again. The story took place supposedly in Eastern Europe so make of it what you will, but it immediately popped in my head when reading this
Then he probably is innocent, but you misunderstand my point about billings. What you see on his phone us that he has contacted her just this once. It might be possible he has deleted evidence of any other contact between them. Seeing list of his calls and messages (probably without their contents) with other numbers you could confirm or deny his story.
Yeah my BFs parents can also babysit a couple of times a week as they will be semi-retiring by then and we could also put him into nursery but that does cost quite a bit – her offer was to take him for those few days so we didn’t have to pay a nursery.
I just feel like I should be able to let her look after him. I don’t feel uncomfortable letting my bf’s parents have him so I don’t know why the anxiety is just around my mom. I feel like I’m overthinking it.
Yes…got it. Understood.
I ask, again.
What does your SO's bad experience have to do with You and your
relationship with your family?
IIWM I would show compassion and support to your SO and do what can be
done ….in your power….. to sooth hurt and angry feelings.
I would NOT:
1.) Make her problem Your problem. She is responsible for her social dynamics just
as your are rersponsible for yours. She had the negative experience NOT you.
2.) honor her request to break your Bond with your family…. OR….upbraid family
members as she has requested.
There ARE times when One takes the side of one's partner, and stands in
union against the challenges of the world. This is NOT one of those times. FWIW.
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Trust your gut. The way you describe him he sounds almost predatory. Like he was attempting to Love Bomb but was so insincere he missed the mark. And the watching you seems calculated, like he's sizing you up, judging how aware of your surroundings you are.
I've probably read too many creepy Reddit stories but this reminds me of a story I came across where a PI was investigating a missing person and turned out the guy the missing woman was dating was a “lure”. A good looking, charming guy who would pretend to be in a relationship with young women and get her to go visit him in another city and then snatch her never to be seen again. The story took place supposedly in Eastern Europe so make of it what you will, but it immediately popped in my head when reading this
And to be fair the comment above ☝️☝️ that there was an incorrect assumption
Because she's special!/s
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Then he probably is innocent, but you misunderstand my point about billings. What you see on his phone us that he has contacted her just this once. It might be possible he has deleted evidence of any other contact between them. Seeing list of his calls and messages (probably without their contents) with other numbers you could confirm or deny his story.
Yeah my BFs parents can also babysit a couple of times a week as they will be semi-retiring by then and we could also put him into nursery but that does cost quite a bit – her offer was to take him for those few days so we didn’t have to pay a nursery.
I just feel like I should be able to let her look after him. I don’t feel uncomfortable letting my bf’s parents have him so I don’t know why the anxiety is just around my mom. I feel like I’m overthinking it.