to be honest I would never ask her too, as she gets easily frustrated and can get short with her siblings. We never had any intentions of her babysitting. My wife is a SAHM, and we have a regular baby sitter that we pay, and that has always been the plan.
You can be exclusive sexually without putting a label on the relationship. It sounds like that’s what you want so instead of behaving like a passenger, take the wheel and tell him that you’d like to be sexually exclusive.
Personally, I don’t see it as a commitment issue. You don’t want anything long term either. And it’s only been a few months. I wasn’t even exclusive with my partner til we had dated about 6 mos. But I made sure that was something we discussed right up front. At 6 mos he asked me to be exclusive and I agreed but at 3 mos? Seeing each other once a week or so? That seems too soon to me.
He's either married or in a relationship or he has an avoidant attachment style, where they tend to detach themselves when things get to serious due to fear of engulfment.
You start out saying you need to fix yourself and be respectful of your wife again. I’d agree. Respect is crucial in a healthy relationship.
Then you use seventeen paragraphs to explain why it’s all your wife’s fault for doing things you don’t agree with. She’s not doing these things to YOU but you are letting them be the excuse for YOUR behavior. How about you work on YOU. If you love this person and want to treat her with online and respect, fix yourself so that can happen. Therapy would be a great first step.
Yes I have a therapy session tomorrow and will definitely talk about this with him. He already knows about the relationship and never hinted towards it being abusive though.
I mean he respond a day after if its just sth stupid like a meme or sth unimportant but when i need his support he is there
You say you just got back together. Why were you broken up in the first place?
I got their obvious point. You missed my point.
Gave me strong VC Andrews vibes.
Ahe has never baby sat,any kids, ever.
Not cousins, not neighbors, not friends kids.
to be honest I would never ask her too, as she gets easily frustrated and can get short with her siblings. We never had any intentions of her babysitting. My wife is a SAHM, and we have a regular baby sitter that we pay, and that has always been the plan.
You can be exclusive sexually without putting a label on the relationship. It sounds like that’s what you want so instead of behaving like a passenger, take the wheel and tell him that you’d like to be sexually exclusive.
Personally, I don’t see it as a commitment issue. You don’t want anything long term either. And it’s only been a few months. I wasn’t even exclusive with my partner til we had dated about 6 mos. But I made sure that was something we discussed right up front. At 6 mos he asked me to be exclusive and I agreed but at 3 mos? Seeing each other once a week or so? That seems too soon to me.
Ask for what you want.
He's either married or in a relationship or he has an avoidant attachment style, where they tend to detach themselves when things get to serious due to fear of engulfment.
You start out saying you need to fix yourself and be respectful of your wife again. I’d agree. Respect is crucial in a healthy relationship.
Then you use seventeen paragraphs to explain why it’s all your wife’s fault for doing things you don’t agree with. She’s not doing these things to YOU but you are letting them be the excuse for YOUR behavior. How about you work on YOU. If you love this person and want to treat her with online and respect, fix yourself so that can happen. Therapy would be a great first step.
I didn't state that. Where's the quote where you think I said the thing that I never said?
“Wtf are you talking about. Hsv-1 isn't an std”
Where is my quote?
Yes I have a therapy session tomorrow and will definitely talk about this with him. He already knows about the relationship and never hinted towards it being abusive though.
Don't be surprised when he starts to break things up after you talk against him.
We will be here advising the 3rd 19yo he starts to date after you.
First, do you have access to a professionals help?