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“I wish I could be with you”
This would be a really simple one for me. You tell her: “I love you so much, I'm going to grant you your wish!” and break up with her so she can be with her (emotional) AP.
Let the ex know if she sends gifts with the children, they will be sent back with the children.
I'm not a fan of that. It turns the kids into a conduit / go-between / messenger and that's a terrible position for them to be in, particularly when their mom is this manipulative and boundary crossing. Just because she does it, doesn't mean he should use them as a return messenger. Better to have it be a dead end street for her. Whatever she does or says or sends just … disappears into the void. If she asks the kids what happens to her gifts to dad, they can tell her. “He doesn't open them. We put them in a box in the basement and he donates them.” “We don't eat the cakes you send. He gives them to the family across the street” and so on.
Honestly, you may be looking at it completely wrong. For a lot of people the partners they really care about they don’t want to share. The partners they know won’t last are the ones to try stuff with because if it screws the whole relationship up who cares.
I recommend the books “Mating in Captivity” and “Come as you are”, which both give good insights and ideas for long term couples wanting to improve their sex lives. But I also don’t think there’s actually anything wrong in your situation, and there are a couple of things you should try to remember.
First thing to remember is that working night shift completely screws with your body’s natural rhythms. So even if she’s still technically getting “enough” sleep there’s a good chance that she’s simply tired all the time in a way that you, as a daytime worker, are not.
Second thing to remember is that over the course of a lifelong relationship, your sex life will ebb and flow. You can’t “keep it at its peak” because that just isn’t natural. There will be times when you’re both super into each other and times when you’re not. I’m not saying just let things die off completely, but the fact is that sometimes there will be periods of weeks or even a few months when you and/or your partner might just not be very interested in sex and not make it a priority. And that’s honestly ok, yes it can be frustrating but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship.
Very few things in our life are absolutely consistent – your sleep patterns, your appetite, your social habits, your energy levels, they all vary over time. Sex is no different, we just freak out about it because of all the emphasis placed on not having a “dead bedroom” or whatever. Look for non-sexual ways to maintain intimacy with your wife and try to take a long view of things; you’ve had a lot of big life changes and have moved in together for the first time. There are bound to be a few bumps. Yes, put the effort in to maintaining a good sex life, but be careful not to force consistency into a situation where it’s not natural or even necessary.
I had a lecturer at uni who worked in Sydney for however many days needed and would fly home to Hawaii for the rest of the time and spend it with her husband and family. I sent her an email about something course related and the response was at a time when Australians are in bed and she later told me that she was drinking wine and enjoying a bath while she responded to emails in Hawaii. All the American lecturers all have stories about culture shock. And it usually revolves around the fact that they use the term eraser and we use rubbers or erasers and their child comes home from school telling their parents how they need a rubber for school.
“I wish I could be with you”
This would be a really simple one for me. You tell her: “I love you so much, I'm going to grant you your wish!” and break up with her so she can be with her (emotional) AP.
Let the ex know if she sends gifts with the children, they will be sent back with the children.
I'm not a fan of that. It turns the kids into a conduit / go-between / messenger and that's a terrible position for them to be in, particularly when their mom is this manipulative and boundary crossing. Just because she does it, doesn't mean he should use them as a return messenger. Better to have it be a dead end street for her. Whatever she does or says or sends just … disappears into the void. If she asks the kids what happens to her gifts to dad, they can tell her. “He doesn't open them. We put them in a box in the basement and he donates them.” “We don't eat the cakes you send. He gives them to the family across the street” and so on.
*maybe grow up and focus on being an interesting and well-rounded person instead of talking about your ex all the time?
Honestly, you may be looking at it completely wrong. For a lot of people the partners they really care about they don’t want to share. The partners they know won’t last are the ones to try stuff with because if it screws the whole relationship up who cares.
I recommend the books “Mating in Captivity” and “Come as you are”, which both give good insights and ideas for long term couples wanting to improve their sex lives. But I also don’t think there’s actually anything wrong in your situation, and there are a couple of things you should try to remember.
First thing to remember is that working night shift completely screws with your body’s natural rhythms. So even if she’s still technically getting “enough” sleep there’s a good chance that she’s simply tired all the time in a way that you, as a daytime worker, are not.
Second thing to remember is that over the course of a lifelong relationship, your sex life will ebb and flow. You can’t “keep it at its peak” because that just isn’t natural. There will be times when you’re both super into each other and times when you’re not. I’m not saying just let things die off completely, but the fact is that sometimes there will be periods of weeks or even a few months when you and/or your partner might just not be very interested in sex and not make it a priority. And that’s honestly ok, yes it can be frustrating but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship.
Very few things in our life are absolutely consistent – your sleep patterns, your appetite, your social habits, your energy levels, they all vary over time. Sex is no different, we just freak out about it because of all the emphasis placed on not having a “dead bedroom” or whatever. Look for non-sexual ways to maintain intimacy with your wife and try to take a long view of things; you’ve had a lot of big life changes and have moved in together for the first time. There are bound to be a few bumps. Yes, put the effort in to maintaining a good sex life, but be careful not to force consistency into a situation where it’s not natural or even necessary.
do it. if these things matter more to you than being with him.
I wouldn’t get involved. Just break off the affair, finally, and let him decide what to do with his marriage.
I had a lecturer at uni who worked in Sydney for however many days needed and would fly home to Hawaii for the rest of the time and spend it with her husband and family. I sent her an email about something course related and the response was at a time when Australians are in bed and she later told me that she was drinking wine and enjoying a bath while she responded to emails in Hawaii. All the American lecturers all have stories about culture shock. And it usually revolves around the fact that they use the term eraser and we use rubbers or erasers and their child comes home from school telling their parents how they need a rubber for school.