Thank you for this insight. I appreciate you taking the time to write all of that out for the benefit of a stranger. I will consider what you’ve said about digging my heels in over something small. I usually do yield to him to avoid disagreements, and because I genuinely am a very laid back and permissive person. But that doesn’t mean he’s mistreating me, it probably just means I’m a pushover and I need to stick up for myself more.
On the subject of kids, due to my recent bipolar diagnosis, I have decided to not have children. I am a teacher, and I can see how having a parent with a mental illness can effect the lives of the children. My would-be children would deserve a mother who is mentally healthy, so that I don’t inadvertently cause them trauma because I’m cycling through moods. I know what it’s like to grow up walking on eggshells, and I don’t want that for my would-be kids. And bipolar can be passed down through genetics, and I don’t want to possibly pass a chronic condition down to my would-be children.
Get rid of the BF and the Sister
Thank you for this insight. I appreciate you taking the time to write all of that out for the benefit of a stranger. I will consider what you’ve said about digging my heels in over something small. I usually do yield to him to avoid disagreements, and because I genuinely am a very laid back and permissive person. But that doesn’t mean he’s mistreating me, it probably just means I’m a pushover and I need to stick up for myself more.
On the subject of kids, due to my recent bipolar diagnosis, I have decided to not have children. I am a teacher, and I can see how having a parent with a mental illness can effect the lives of the children. My would-be children would deserve a mother who is mentally healthy, so that I don’t inadvertently cause them trauma because I’m cycling through moods. I know what it’s like to grow up walking on eggshells, and I don’t want that for my would-be kids. And bipolar can be passed down through genetics, and I don’t want to possibly pass a chronic condition down to my would-be children.
So why not end the marriage?
Your husband only adds to the labor you do, he takes you for granted, and most importantly, you were happier without him than with him.