Girl dump his ass and seek therapy to work on your confidence, because you’ve allowed this man to absolutely tear you down. You deserve better than this.
I can speak to this as someone whose mother had an affair. She was always my moral compass growing up and when I found out, it was extremely destabilizing. All of the choices I'd made modeling myself after her, all the advice I'd asked her for, it all felt tainted. I took some time off our relationship and didn't really speak to her for six months or so.
That was years ago and we now have a very strong and loving relationship, but it is different. I don't trust her perspective on relationships as much, I don't come to her for advice in the same way. We almost have more of a friendship than the mother-daughter relationship we once had. I love her and while I find her choices in that regard abhorrent, I have come to understand why she made the choices she did and people are complex.
It's possible your son will come around. You just need to be respectful of whatever space he takes and not push. I also think it's vital that you take responsibility for the fact that these were your choices and not blame your sister for the entire situation.
Girl dump his ass and seek therapy to work on your confidence, because you’ve allowed this man to absolutely tear you down. You deserve better than this.
I can speak to this as someone whose mother had an affair. She was always my moral compass growing up and when I found out, it was extremely destabilizing. All of the choices I'd made modeling myself after her, all the advice I'd asked her for, it all felt tainted. I took some time off our relationship and didn't really speak to her for six months or so.
That was years ago and we now have a very strong and loving relationship, but it is different. I don't trust her perspective on relationships as much, I don't come to her for advice in the same way. We almost have more of a friendship than the mother-daughter relationship we once had. I love her and while I find her choices in that regard abhorrent, I have come to understand why she made the choices she did and people are complex.
It's possible your son will come around. You just need to be respectful of whatever space he takes and not push. I also think it's vital that you take responsibility for the fact that these were your choices and not blame your sister for the entire situation.
Re-read her last 2 sentences.
Look at how he describes her. He's dating her for her beauty and social standing.