So I got sent screenshots of a chat between Evelyn and Leah which shows that… Most things “rumour” wise. I.e. only dating Ellen to make Evelyn jealous which I forgot to mention and all of that came from Ellen her self? And that she told Leah to make it out as HER own opinion to Evelyn.
So basically: Ellen told Leah to make those rumours out to be her own opinion to Evelyn instead of just messaging me and asking about it?
Which now makes me think Ellen does not want to date me. I myself find it confusing so I can rephrase it if you don't get it.
First off, this is always a nude situation to go through, especially given the length of time and planning that went into your relationship.
One thing I will quickly add is be thankful, be thankful you both didn't move further in your lives for him to drop the bomb, as it would have been significantly worse. You were able to see exactly who he was and now you know he was never the one you would spend your life with.
What he described is very common, and it is a feeling many people experience due to cultural pressure and other temptations, and that feeling can occur whether you have sexually been promiscuous or not. What you learned from him is that 7 years was worth trading for another woman, that is not the type of dynamic you want to stay in.
Take some time, move out or move back home, and start over. Remove all reminders of him, and focus on building your life around family or friends that genuinely have your best interest at heart. It isn't easy, but one day at a time. Do not get sucked into the lifestyle of one night stands to bury the pain.
You need to leave long story short. She will never change, she will never get better. I don't care if she has a mental health problem (SPECIFICALLY like BPD or a similar disorder that can cause problems emotionally). I have BPD and I pushed myself to be better than this, which I have acted like before. Difference being, she is not.
She has no ground to stand on, that's why there were no examples to give you. You are being abused and manipulated by this overgrown, spoiled, basic bitch who is equivalent to a weed. YOU DESERVE BETTER. YOU DESERVE PEACE WITHOUT GIVING UP YOUR AUTONOMY TO HAVE IT
Is she still dating your ex or are they now broken up?
Call.
Alright this could've been written better
Willing to bet your wife was uncomfortable with this “friend” before the cheating incident
So I got sent screenshots of a chat between Evelyn and Leah which shows that… Most things “rumour” wise. I.e. only dating Ellen to make Evelyn jealous which I forgot to mention and all of that came from Ellen her self? And that she told Leah to make it out as HER own opinion to Evelyn.
So basically: Ellen told Leah to make those rumours out to be her own opinion to Evelyn instead of just messaging me and asking about it?
Which now makes me think Ellen does not want to date me. I myself find it confusing so I can rephrase it if you don't get it.
Run bro, she wants to take everything
I’m sorry you’re going through this, but if you don’t get a lawyer immediately, you will regret it.
First off, this is always a nude situation to go through, especially given the length of time and planning that went into your relationship.
One thing I will quickly add is be thankful, be thankful you both didn't move further in your lives for him to drop the bomb, as it would have been significantly worse. You were able to see exactly who he was and now you know he was never the one you would spend your life with.
What he described is very common, and it is a feeling many people experience due to cultural pressure and other temptations, and that feeling can occur whether you have sexually been promiscuous or not. What you learned from him is that 7 years was worth trading for another woman, that is not the type of dynamic you want to stay in.
Take some time, move out or move back home, and start over. Remove all reminders of him, and focus on building your life around family or friends that genuinely have your best interest at heart. It isn't easy, but one day at a time. Do not get sucked into the lifestyle of one night stands to bury the pain.
You need to leave long story short. She will never change, she will never get better. I don't care if she has a mental health problem (SPECIFICALLY like BPD or a similar disorder that can cause problems emotionally). I have BPD and I pushed myself to be better than this, which I have acted like before. Difference being, she is not.
She has no ground to stand on, that's why there were no examples to give you. You are being abused and manipulated by this overgrown, spoiled, basic bitch who is equivalent to a weed. YOU DESERVE BETTER. YOU DESERVE PEACE WITHOUT GIVING UP YOUR AUTONOMY TO HAVE IT
Tbh if I’m dating someone I automatically assume they have searched or looked me up.