There's a statistic that most men are still in love with their first love since it was the very first time they ever experienced intimacy on that level, whereas us women experience intimacy through all kind of means. I would focus on myself personally and watch out for red flags for men like this.
Also I feel like if your partner is stressed at the same time as you it makes everything infinitely more stressful. My husband and I like to say “only one of us can be stressed out at a time.” Doesn’t always work out that way but we recognize we can be extra on edge when we are both salty about something.
I think what’s important is how she reacts now. Is she sorry? Will she apologize? Does she acknowledge that it’s not an okay thing to say? Jumping to “she literally wants me dead!” seems like a huge reaction to me.
It's good to forgive them, but that doesn't mean you have to take people back. The people calling you names at the end are gaslighting you. If it's your ex and former friend….consider that a double helping of disrespect.
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There's a statistic that most men are still in love with their first love since it was the very first time they ever experienced intimacy on that level, whereas us women experience intimacy through all kind of means. I would focus on myself personally and watch out for red flags for men like this.
Isn't it a way to escape responsibility or manipulation
It could be either of those reasons. Your husband is an ass.
That is such a good point. It’s just a cheek swab too.
Also I feel like if your partner is stressed at the same time as you it makes everything infinitely more stressful. My husband and I like to say “only one of us can be stressed out at a time.” Doesn’t always work out that way but we recognize we can be extra on edge when we are both salty about something.
I think what’s important is how she reacts now. Is she sorry? Will she apologize? Does she acknowledge that it’s not an okay thing to say? Jumping to “she literally wants me dead!” seems like a huge reaction to me.
It's good to forgive them, but that doesn't mean you have to take people back. The people calling you names at the end are gaslighting you. If it's your ex and former friend….consider that a double helping of disrespect.