I have forced myself to not think this way for the last 3.5 years. I will listen to your advice and try to find a new balance in my thoughts. I think I will talk with a friend about it. But I am ashamed of wanting to divorce. I will get over it and do what is right.
I was hoping maybe I can find a solution to stay with her or some motivation of people who have gone through this and came out better with their SO.
All I could think reading her text messages was, projection. Literally everything I tried to discuss about how I was feeling in a productive way turned around on me in an angry way. How dare I ignore her feelings by saying that talking once a week doesn't do it for me…
That's what worries me too, she seems to feel this is right which really threw me for a loop. I'm not in the best state right now and I started to wonder if she was right, but somehow others in my life don't get angry with me for needing a friend.
These comments about her “boundaries” and “self-care” really worry me. It's like this is how she is defending her behavior and since they are positive words I am in the wrong for questioning it.
I have forced myself to not think this way for the last 3.5 years. I will listen to your advice and try to find a new balance in my thoughts. I think I will talk with a friend about it. But I am ashamed of wanting to divorce. I will get over it and do what is right.
I was hoping maybe I can find a solution to stay with her or some motivation of people who have gone through this and came out better with their SO.
Thank you again.
All I could think reading her text messages was, projection. Literally everything I tried to discuss about how I was feeling in a productive way turned around on me in an angry way. How dare I ignore her feelings by saying that talking once a week doesn't do it for me…
That's what worries me too, she seems to feel this is right which really threw me for a loop. I'm not in the best state right now and I started to wonder if she was right, but somehow others in my life don't get angry with me for needing a friend.
These comments about her “boundaries” and “self-care” really worry me. It's like this is how she is defending her behavior and since they are positive words I am in the wrong for questioning it.