Only you can decide the answer to that question but it is extremely important you pick a concrete amount of time that doesn’t waver, and if things have not changed by then, you need to leave
For me I’d have probably left when she promised she’d get help, then didn’t. Shows she was more afraid of you leaving her than actually treating you better
If you do try to leave her she’s likely to go even more…unhinged, so just look out for that when you decide to leave. It won’t be your fault and weather the storm, but I do think if you leave her you will in the long run be a LOT happier, even if the short run is rather turbulent.
Honestly I can’t imagine he would do all of the things he’s done for you to help your life and care for you solely because he’s into women with disabilities. Changing his whole house and caring for you really well by the sounds of it. I can’t speak for all men but I’d say most men have to be turned on by their partner to want to be with them and love them. I know I do.
As far as talking to him.. idk. I think you’ll have to just for your own peace of mind. Kind of an awkward conversation no doubt. Wish you the best.
I mean, TBH the things my other guy friends have told me always revolve around making their relationships better. The M31 male case is the only case that is different from the rest. The rest openly tells me about their lover's identity and their lovers know me, although we're not close. But they're welcomed to read my text messages with them, and they have no issue with their lover reading the messages between us.
While I do fully agree with you for some cases, I do think that there are friendships that doesn't fall into that category.
Why did you entertain the idea to contact her again? A break gave you the right to on-line your life as you wish and not a holiday! Forget her asap and never speak again!
Get a lawyer. As well-intentioned and supportive as she is now, life inevitably changes things. The traveling becomes burdensome, the arrangement gets in the way of new goals and plans, new relationships happen, whatever.
I know it hurts to think about any of that, but it’s reality. Getting a lawyer and setting things up now will save a lot of heartache and headache down the road.
If you insert yourself into their relationship you can expect to lose your friend. Sorry my dude but this isn’t something you can tell her right now. She is in the middle of a relationship and it’s extremely disrespectful to not only her but your friend as well to come out with your own feelings and put them on her like that. It’s not cool, and honestly it seems like you just wanna hope that she’d break it off with your friend because they aren’t doing so hard to get with you instead. If you must tell her, do so when she is single or when/if the feelings pass.
The only acceptable way to use that is in a joke or unimportant opinion. I can’t believe this dude is using it seriously
Boundaries my brother
Only you can decide the answer to that question but it is extremely important you pick a concrete amount of time that doesn’t waver, and if things have not changed by then, you need to leave
For me I’d have probably left when she promised she’d get help, then didn’t. Shows she was more afraid of you leaving her than actually treating you better
If you do try to leave her she’s likely to go even more…unhinged, so just look out for that when you decide to leave. It won’t be your fault and weather the storm, but I do think if you leave her you will in the long run be a LOT happier, even if the short run is rather turbulent.
Honestly I can’t imagine he would do all of the things he’s done for you to help your life and care for you solely because he’s into women with disabilities. Changing his whole house and caring for you really well by the sounds of it. I can’t speak for all men but I’d say most men have to be turned on by their partner to want to be with them and love them. I know I do.
As far as talking to him.. idk. I think you’ll have to just for your own peace of mind. Kind of an awkward conversation no doubt. Wish you the best.
I mean, TBH the things my other guy friends have told me always revolve around making their relationships better. The M31 male case is the only case that is different from the rest. The rest openly tells me about their lover's identity and their lovers know me, although we're not close. But they're welcomed to read my text messages with them, and they have no issue with their lover reading the messages between us.
While I do fully agree with you for some cases, I do think that there are friendships that doesn't fall into that category.
Why did you entertain the idea to contact her again? A break gave you the right to on-line your life as you wish and not a holiday! Forget her asap and never speak again!
So I guess if I continue being close to her I would be letting her use me because I have feelings for her whereas she just wants attention
Get a lawyer. As well-intentioned and supportive as she is now, life inevitably changes things. The traveling becomes burdensome, the arrangement gets in the way of new goals and plans, new relationships happen, whatever.
I know it hurts to think about any of that, but it’s reality. Getting a lawyer and setting things up now will save a lot of heartache and headache down the road.
If you insert yourself into their relationship you can expect to lose your friend. Sorry my dude but this isn’t something you can tell her right now. She is in the middle of a relationship and it’s extremely disrespectful to not only her but your friend as well to come out with your own feelings and put them on her like that. It’s not cool, and honestly it seems like you just wanna hope that she’d break it off with your friend because they aren’t doing so hard to get with you instead. If you must tell her, do so when she is single or when/if the feelings pass.
She sounds very immature for 23
She isn't your friend.