He says he’s unhappy but how does he see becoming happy? A marriage and children won’t suddenly fix whatever is missing in his life to make him happy. My first advice is get back on birth control. The last thing you need is to bring a child into this. Maybe marriage counseling can work but really it sounds like this is a problem with him, not your relationship. It sounds like he needs therapy but marriage and babies should be on hold for now. You should also consider that he actively looked for this affair thinking it might fill some hole and lied about it. Who’s to say he won’t do it again whenever he feels this way. Instead of coming to you, his partner of 7 years with his feelings he looked outside. This says a lot about how he views your relationship
Of course I want him to mention my body. I have told him am insecure and that when it comes to me being naked to try and keep the negative comments to himself until later. And yes saying my butt got small is a negative since I have tried to gain muscle and make it bigger and have told him so.
The issue isn't the comment. It's the time he said it. Since I have told him those comments during sexy time are hurtful and negative, therefore he should know to talk to me later about the comments he has.
Hoping for more context here, but does your boyfriend socialize with friends when he's playing these games? If he is then that'll have to be a factor if you choose to talk to him about the issue.
Well unfortunately this is who he is when left to his own devices. It’s not just the weight gain, it’s the lazy lifestyle and inability to regulate himself. Huge turn off. I wouldn’t wanna stay with someone like this bc I don’t want to be their life coach and gym trainer, tell them not to play video games all day and that they need to get a job. You can tell him that you want him to lose weight but he will change for a little while at best and then always revert to how he wants to live. nah….
He says he’s unhappy but how does he see becoming happy? A marriage and children won’t suddenly fix whatever is missing in his life to make him happy. My first advice is get back on birth control. The last thing you need is to bring a child into this. Maybe marriage counseling can work but really it sounds like this is a problem with him, not your relationship. It sounds like he needs therapy but marriage and babies should be on hold for now. You should also consider that he actively looked for this affair thinking it might fill some hole and lied about it. Who’s to say he won’t do it again whenever he feels this way. Instead of coming to you, his partner of 7 years with his feelings he looked outside. This says a lot about how he views your relationship
Of course I want him to mention my body. I have told him am insecure and that when it comes to me being naked to try and keep the negative comments to himself until later. And yes saying my butt got small is a negative since I have tried to gain muscle and make it bigger and have told him so.
The issue isn't the comment. It's the time he said it. Since I have told him those comments during sexy time are hurtful and negative, therefore he should know to talk to me later about the comments he has.
I was looking for this specific comment. Did not disappoint.
I’m already in therapy
Hoping for more context here, but does your boyfriend socialize with friends when he's playing these games? If he is then that'll have to be a factor if you choose to talk to him about the issue.
She eventually apologized because i got much angriee this time that its now happened multiple times.
Well unfortunately this is who he is when left to his own devices. It’s not just the weight gain, it’s the lazy lifestyle and inability to regulate himself. Huge turn off. I wouldn’t wanna stay with someone like this bc I don’t want to be their life coach and gym trainer, tell them not to play video games all day and that they need to get a job. You can tell him that you want him to lose weight but he will change for a little while at best and then always revert to how he wants to live. nah….