I can only think of it as a motherly instinct. I’m not missing anything in my life that having a baby would fill and our relationship is solid and happy as is. It’s just a desire to be a mother and the excitement of starting a family with my partner. I think the “rush” has more to do with excitement and instinct rather than an actual need. It’s also nude to say no and ignore those initial thoughts because nothing but my age stands in the way of a mature and proper decision to pursue those thoughts.
It’s still waayyy early in the game. Nope. You will not be single forever. Take time to explore all this and figure out who you are, what you want, etc. Don’t feel like there’s anything wrong with being alone too. Wait till you meet someone and FEEL it. ?
In this situation, you keep your door open and your mouth shut.
You can’t stop him from distancing himself. But you can make sure that he knows you will always welcome him if he ever decides to change that. You do this with the way you treat him – if you’re judgemental towards him at all, it doesn’t matter if you say he’s always welcome – your actions will drown out any words of welcome you might say.
Your parents may want to rethink some of their plans – the gift giving, the planned inheritance of the business, etc. Your place is to privately express concern to your parents that they may be investing too deeply in a one way relationship. You can raise the topic to your parents once, then forget it unless they bring it up again.
Your wife neglected your son, and cheated on you. Any trust that has to be rebuilt does not have to be done by you.
This will involve a serious act of contrition on the part of your wife, who will not only have to aplogise to you, but also to your son.
Then, counselling, initially not to save the marriage, but to see if the marriage is worth saving.
If you decide you wish to continue in this relationship, understand this. It will never be the same again. It will always be 'less'. The relationship will be tainted forever. You will know this, she will know this.
If you decide to stay the course, think how it's going to feel, every time you are not sure where she is, or what she is doing. Every time she goes out somewhere. Think about what is going to go through your mind.
If you can handle that, go for it. But if it's going to twist you and make you bitter and resentful, think how that's going to affect your son, watching his dad just get worse and worse.
So, if you're up for it, give it a shot, but it's probably going to hurt you and your son in the long run.
Once she moves in you may never get her out. If she has no money, she wont be able to leave. If your house had a mother-in-law suite with its own entrance and bathroom, that would be one thing, but close quarters living daily for a newlywed couple, not a great idea. She is only 64. That is really young nowadays. She probably has a good 20+ years left. Is she gonna stay with you that long? If not, why move in now? If she really already took early social security, that was a mistake and reduced her payment substantially from age 67 full benefit and even more than the age 70 maximum benefit. Basically she has about $2K per month to online on. She isn't 65 so she cant get medicare. How is she paying for health insurance? Will you have to pay it for now? Bottom line, she is not an old invalid. 64 is the new 45. She needs to get back into life. Taking her in will probably only further enable her possible depression or issues.
…he felt comfortable with you, this is not a bad thing lol
I can only think of it as a motherly instinct. I’m not missing anything in my life that having a baby would fill and our relationship is solid and happy as is. It’s just a desire to be a mother and the excitement of starting a family with my partner. I think the “rush” has more to do with excitement and instinct rather than an actual need. It’s also nude to say no and ignore those initial thoughts because nothing but my age stands in the way of a mature and proper decision to pursue those thoughts.
It’s still waayyy early in the game. Nope. You will not be single forever. Take time to explore all this and figure out who you are, what you want, etc. Don’t feel like there’s anything wrong with being alone too. Wait till you meet someone and FEEL it. ?
In this situation, you keep your door open and your mouth shut.
You can’t stop him from distancing himself. But you can make sure that he knows you will always welcome him if he ever decides to change that. You do this with the way you treat him – if you’re judgemental towards him at all, it doesn’t matter if you say he’s always welcome – your actions will drown out any words of welcome you might say.
Your parents may want to rethink some of their plans – the gift giving, the planned inheritance of the business, etc. Your place is to privately express concern to your parents that they may be investing too deeply in a one way relationship. You can raise the topic to your parents once, then forget it unless they bring it up again.
If you don't want to hear the truth why ask the question?
Your wife neglected your son, and cheated on you. Any trust that has to be rebuilt does not have to be done by you.
This will involve a serious act of contrition on the part of your wife, who will not only have to aplogise to you, but also to your son.
Then, counselling, initially not to save the marriage, but to see if the marriage is worth saving.
If you decide you wish to continue in this relationship, understand this. It will never be the same again. It will always be 'less'. The relationship will be tainted forever. You will know this, she will know this.
If you decide to stay the course, think how it's going to feel, every time you are not sure where she is, or what she is doing. Every time she goes out somewhere. Think about what is going to go through your mind.
If you can handle that, go for it. But if it's going to twist you and make you bitter and resentful, think how that's going to affect your son, watching his dad just get worse and worse.
So, if you're up for it, give it a shot, but it's probably going to hurt you and your son in the long run.
Updateme!
My friends lives states away from me
Shit happens.
Also, the way you wrote this sounds like a rough draft for a shitty erotica.
Once she moves in you may never get her out. If she has no money, she wont be able to leave. If your house had a mother-in-law suite with its own entrance and bathroom, that would be one thing, but close quarters living daily for a newlywed couple, not a great idea. She is only 64. That is really young nowadays. She probably has a good 20+ years left. Is she gonna stay with you that long? If not, why move in now? If she really already took early social security, that was a mistake and reduced her payment substantially from age 67 full benefit and even more than the age 70 maximum benefit. Basically she has about $2K per month to online on. She isn't 65 so she cant get medicare. How is she paying for health insurance? Will you have to pay it for now? Bottom line, she is not an old invalid. 64 is the new 45. She needs to get back into life. Taking her in will probably only further enable her possible depression or issues.