She doesn’t necessarily think everyone is, but I have seen proof of a few occasions where close friends have harassed her or crossed boundaries they definitely shouldn’t have and that definitely weren’t her imagination. That’s why I understand to some extent, but yeah, I agree that we shouldn’t stay over with each other going forward. I’m just mostly concerned about other interactions. Thanks for the advice though
He’s extremely intelligent and I respect that. This isn’t about fun, spending time together is important in relationships. I have no desire to be single, I love him and I simply want to spend time with him and make memories we can look back on and cherish.
I respect your insight. That says a lot about you and so does your willingness to change. You have already taken the first step in acknowledging the problem. Yes, that was negative and mean. I’m going to suggest addressing this in therapy. It’s so much easier when you on-line with optimism. It would be for both of you. I can’t see you downplaying his passions in the future because you’ll hear yourself and it will feel really crappy. I just think real change happens with a bit of work. It will also show him how important this is to you. Good luck.
What is his purpose in inviting her to church? The only reasonable conclusion is that he believes she needs to be “saved” which is very disrespectful. If someone wants to check out the church, they can seek it out on their own. They don't need a friend asking them and making it into an obligation where the person feels uncomfortable saying no, which OP's friend did by sending a long email asking. This email wasn't just a quick, “hey, do you want to join me for a church service, it could be fun to check out,” it was long which implies the typical coercion and guilt tripping of typical religious types.
Something's going on. Is there something outside of your relationship that may be causing him to break down? Work stress, family issues, health?
Honestly, this is not sustainable in the long term. You've tried talking and it hasn't worked. You may need to put your foot down. See if he would be down for therapy or couples therapy. If not, then it really seems like he's not here for the relationship anymore and I don't think I would be able to stay.
She doesn’t necessarily think everyone is, but I have seen proof of a few occasions where close friends have harassed her or crossed boundaries they definitely shouldn’t have and that definitely weren’t her imagination. That’s why I understand to some extent, but yeah, I agree that we shouldn’t stay over with each other going forward. I’m just mostly concerned about other interactions. Thanks for the advice though
He’s extremely intelligent and I respect that. This isn’t about fun, spending time together is important in relationships. I have no desire to be single, I love him and I simply want to spend time with him and make memories we can look back on and cherish.
I think this is fake.
You’re clearly not mentally all the way there so I’m gonna leave you alone you autistic loser
I respect your insight. That says a lot about you and so does your willingness to change. You have already taken the first step in acknowledging the problem. Yes, that was negative and mean. I’m going to suggest addressing this in therapy. It’s so much easier when you on-line with optimism. It would be for both of you. I can’t see you downplaying his passions in the future because you’ll hear yourself and it will feel really crappy. I just think real change happens with a bit of work. It will also show him how important this is to you. Good luck.
What is his purpose in inviting her to church? The only reasonable conclusion is that he believes she needs to be “saved” which is very disrespectful. If someone wants to check out the church, they can seek it out on their own. They don't need a friend asking them and making it into an obligation where the person feels uncomfortable saying no, which OP's friend did by sending a long email asking. This email wasn't just a quick, “hey, do you want to join me for a church service, it could be fun to check out,” it was long which implies the typical coercion and guilt tripping of typical religious types.
If you want to invite someone to church, don't.
Yeah nah they’re gonna fuck
Something's going on. Is there something outside of your relationship that may be causing him to break down? Work stress, family issues, health?
Honestly, this is not sustainable in the long term. You've tried talking and it hasn't worked. You may need to put your foot down. See if he would be down for therapy or couples therapy. If not, then it really seems like he's not here for the relationship anymore and I don't think I would be able to stay.