I don’t see why me asking this question makes me immature. I asked if getting a hotel for sex is worth it being fwb.
I don’t know how you get that I don’t seem to get the notions you of friends or fwb based on this question. I come across as petty, immature and demanding because of this question? You’re the one with issues if you’re judging me based on a question about getting a hotel.
People are going to watch it, it's just going to happen. You give everyone an internet device that fits in their pocket and Pornhub is free, so… it's gonna happen. He's a grown man, he can do that if he wants. It's only problematic if you or he have religious terms that explicitly forbid it, if he's watching illegal/underage content, or if it has negatively impacted your sex life. If you have a problem with it, leave. If he says he will try to stop, he probably won't because… it's not really that big of a deal. No one's forcing you to stay in a relationship you're uncomfortable being in. Always remember – “NO” is a complete sentence.
That being said, I hear the phrase “I have so much trauma from my past where someone did _______ to me…” that's fair, that happens, and I'm sorry you had to put up with that. But your boyfriend didn't do that, so don't hold him to certain standards because someone in the past did something awful. He didn't do that; they did. Hold THEM accountable for their actions; not your current partner. I can't tell you how many stagnant/unhealthy relationships continue despite obvious incompatibility… based solely on “past trauma” and “insecurities because of an ex.” Guess what? If you're still making decisions based on issues with past exes, you reeeeeeeeeeally shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. Get to a healthy point where you can love someone without having pre-requisites. Your poor boyfriend needs therapy and you're quite literally invalidating his trauma and labeling your own issues as more important/more valid than his. Don't do that. Not a good look.
You're 18. You need to live for yourself. Break up with him.
Act your wage
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I don’t see why me asking this question makes me immature. I asked if getting a hotel for sex is worth it being fwb.
I don’t know how you get that I don’t seem to get the notions you of friends or fwb based on this question. I come across as petty, immature and demanding because of this question? You’re the one with issues if you’re judging me based on a question about getting a hotel.
People are going to watch it, it's just going to happen. You give everyone an internet device that fits in their pocket and Pornhub is free, so… it's gonna happen. He's a grown man, he can do that if he wants. It's only problematic if you or he have religious terms that explicitly forbid it, if he's watching illegal/underage content, or if it has negatively impacted your sex life. If you have a problem with it, leave. If he says he will try to stop, he probably won't because… it's not really that big of a deal. No one's forcing you to stay in a relationship you're uncomfortable being in. Always remember – “NO” is a complete sentence.
That being said, I hear the phrase “I have so much trauma from my past where someone did _______ to me…” that's fair, that happens, and I'm sorry you had to put up with that. But your boyfriend didn't do that, so don't hold him to certain standards because someone in the past did something awful. He didn't do that; they did. Hold THEM accountable for their actions; not your current partner. I can't tell you how many stagnant/unhealthy relationships continue despite obvious incompatibility… based solely on “past trauma” and “insecurities because of an ex.” Guess what? If you're still making decisions based on issues with past exes, you reeeeeeeeeeally shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. Get to a healthy point where you can love someone without having pre-requisites. Your poor boyfriend needs therapy and you're quite literally invalidating his trauma and labeling your own issues as more important/more valid than his. Don't do that. Not a good look.